searchingwonderland Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I dated a guy for.over.two years. We both have children from previous relationships. I fell fast and hard for this man. Wanted to lve with him, marry him, spend tye rest of my life with him. Our relationship was very on and off, he couldnt or wouldnt commit, would put everything else before me etc... But like a fool I could only see the fact that I loved him. He had been very hurt by his ex wife who had cheated on him repeatedly and then kicked him out. He spent the first year of our relationship talking about her a lot. Telling me all the awful things sye had done. It was obvious he wasnt over her but I ignored the warning signs and kept.trying, kept making excuses. Anyway, just after xmas he dumped me.via text. Said he wasnt happy, hadnt been for a while etc... Turns out he met someone within a month of our split, fell madly in love etc... But due.to problems with her abusive ex, they split up. The problem is that after all those months and me meeting a really nice chap, I still think of him.so often. Get mad that I helped him over.his wife for another woman to reap the rewards etx... How can I get him out of my system. Wish I could forget all about him, loke tye film eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. Any advice will be gratefuly recieved.
Philosoraptor Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 He was rebounding, both with you and with this new girl. He's still not over his ex, and sadly nothing you could have done would have changed that. All you can do now is commit yourself to moving on. Make no contact, block him in every way possible, do not check up on his life, fill yourself with hobbies and other things that make you happy, and you will slowly find yourself getting out of this pit and finding more happiness in your life. 2
Author searchingwonderland Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 I feel so hurt that he could.fall in love.so.quickly.after.we.split. He told me.he fell.in love immediately and had the best six months of his life. She ended thibgs with him. They have remained.friends, something ye refused me. I know I am better.off.out of this but iust cant stop.it.going around my head.
Philosoraptor Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 He was just trying to get a reaction out of you. His cheating ex wife has made him very insecure. Do not communicate with him in any way as it will only bring you pain. If he contacts you, ignore it.
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