Omei Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 So today I go into month 8 of no contact I trashed everything total wipe down I do not cry anymore nor do I think about him all day he's never contacted me since, I feel good he was the love of my life "so far" but when I think of him now its often just the things I disliked or knew I could never live with. Sometimes ill still even feel angry. Seems all urges to call or stalk online have vanished. It would be nice to have a new BF but no one has blown me away if anything I am in no rush to give up my freedom having 0 expectations from someone is pretty awesome I dont have to tell a soul where I am going. Hope you guys get to the point im at I remember the begining I am not that now. 12
Leegh Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Congratulations! It seems as if you have made great progress. It sounds as if you may have been in love with him, but didn't like him. I was in love with a guy a number of years ago, but I didn't like him, as there were quite a few things about him that I disliked. Hopefully, you'll meet someone new soon, but enjoy being alone for now.
Exitleft Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I hope we all reach that place too. 5 months to go
AnnaAnna Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I can't wait to get to that point with my ex. Congratulations on your success!
Author Omei Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 Congratulations! It seems as if you have made great progress. It sounds as if you may have been in love with him, but didn't like him. I was in love with a guy a number of years ago, but I didn't like him, as there were quite a few things about him that I disliked. Hopefully, you'll meet someone new soon, but enjoy being alone for now. Oh yes I loved and liked him so very much that's why I say "Love of my life" thus far out of any relationship I had, I stayed and stuck through everything and would of continued too with his flaws. He left. I think about things I disliked or couldn't live with a lot more than any good, had too I had to get angry I had to look at the things that made me upset a type of brain washing dwelling on our love didn't help me. Thanks guys yeah I feel very good. Except for my ability to care for men I actually get quite annoyed being flirted with right now all guys seem to be a mesh of "whatever" I am so happy on my own right now. 1
Chris715 Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Really glad to hear you're doing well. 3 or so weeks of complete NC for me, really struggling right now.
Author Omei Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 Really glad to hear you're doing well. 3 or so weeks of complete NC for me, really struggling right now. Just stick to it! Once I stuck to it just got easier and easier
Author Omei Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 Thanks took a lot of work to stop being sad and missing him. Now I dont think of him all day anymore when I do his selfishness drives me wild inside and ill have fantasys of hurting them, something new I have to get over and work on. Funny how the man who just left me was the one who helped me get passed my forever hatred and revenge state I had for my childs birth farther who was abusive physically for many years. I held so much hate. He helped me let go. Funny thats the only thing he ever taught or could teach me my récent ex had no clue about how it takes two. Its crazy I am applying the same method for him now as too not get trapped in anger.
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