heartbroken1357 Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Hey guys im back again need to vent get some feelings out About six weeks ago I was on here after my gf had taken a break and slept with another guy and was determined I wasn't going to take her back, Circumstances changed after I rowed with my parents and got kicked out They were incredibly unsupportive as I had heart problems and was unable to work I had started looking for work but was unfruitful. . Anyway my gf who had cheated on me said her parents said I could stay at thiers I said is it really a good idea and I thought she was doing it to conceal Her guilt for her behaviour or that she was genuinly sorry. Her parents said she was devastated and they had never seen her so upset And I still had alot of feelings for her so I moved in convinced it was what she wanted And it would bring us back together. I stayed there for the last 6 weeks she went too work, I earnt money from home And stayed there, I was going to stay in the spare room but she wanted me in bed with her we spend every night in the same bed and before long started sleeping together again Makeup sex and all that, it felt great, a couple of weeks pass and I just feel something isn't right, I shouldn't of done it but I looked through her phone, and she had been messaging and meeting up with this guy, and been out on dates with him, sent him photos and spoke dirty too him, she had obviously been lieing about going out with her friends, I confronted her and she didn't seem to care about what she had done wrong but more that she had been caught and I'd gone through her phone (hypocrite she allways looks on mine) I was due to go away for that weekend so I said to her I can't take this anymore you have until Monday too make a decision it's everything or nothing it's me or him. She had bee playing the confused card doesn't know what she wants for a month by this point. I said to her its no surprise when you are meeting and talking to other guys while beddong me, I quees I was taken for a mug and stupid as hell to stick about, but love makes us do stupid things like that I quess. I came back the monday and she said I want to be friends I was like fine, I'll go in the spare room and move out as soon as I can, she then broke down said she makes her decisions then can't go through with them as when im face to face with her the feelings come back, we make out and have sex again, by this point im mind screwing myself without knowing. That wws the beginning of last week, so go back to last Thursday she goes out and promises shes going out with her lady friends or so she told me, I said to her promise me and she said I promise, we had sex she kissed me said she loved me and went. Later that nig I caught her out as by chance I was going past where she was meant to be and she wasnt there, she then admitted she was over another friends snd had lied too me. And thay she was fedup with my controlling attitude and she could see whoever she wanted. (This guy she was dating before she met me) so I said im not stopping you being friends with him you just dont stay over his house it's not acceptable and she had done it when we were first seeing eachother. The next morning friday I packed my stuff and went I thought this will show her im serious and will hit her like a brick wall, it felt great, I'd had a call that morning and I'd got a job in my career I wanted and I moved into my own house, I didn't respond to her calls that night. She comes and sees me the next day and tells me she slept with the guy she had been messaging the night I moved out, it killed me I said some harsh stuff and literally broke down. I just don't get it she messaged me lastnight saying she wants to be friends and atm it can only be that as she is seeing someome. I don't understand how someone who is devestated In losing you writes you a huge love letter, tells her parents how happy she is and talks about kids and moving in together, then in the space of 6 weeks is jumping someone else, I just cannot get my head around it. Alot of our mutual friends have cut her out and she now has no-one and this new guy is going offshore tommorow and she won't have me or her friends to turn to so I hope it hits her, I went snd got my stuff from hers lastnight and even her mum dad and grandparents said I deserve better and too move on as im too nice of a guy to suffer and that it will hit her and she will regret it. I have a hardened shell this time as its happend before I just feel crap at night and in the mornings, I know I have good things going for me now, I just don't understand why she asked me to move in if she was just going to play me along its soo f'd up. I got the new job and got my own place and the same weekend she does this Just doesn't make sense I quess whatever you have and do for someome doesn't mean anything I bought her car for her that she now drives past me in. I took her back twice and was still willing after all this, I took her back and went and saw her 3 times the night I ended things with her, and she was In pieces, now i let her back in and im the one in pieces and she's nowhere to be seen. This has happend almost identically 3 times too me now, I'm afraid of getting attached too people now Sorry for the essay
Johnsmith100 Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I really feel for you mate and wish I could give you some advice. I've gone through some stuff that I have no idea about too and I'm trying now to just block her out of my life completely and find someone else. She'll definitely realise at some point, as will mine, but I'm starting to think as soon as you give them another chance they'll be in the power position and take you for a mug again. The only chance we both have is to leave them to it, let them realise how much they've lost and literally beg us for another chance. That way we call the shots and can call it how we want instead of them knowing we will take all the **** forever. Feel free to read over my situation...it's just as much of a head **** http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/427637-unique-situation
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