UnknownFX Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 what do they mean by letting go my ex girlfriend told me that today but i really don't know what she means by that?
clementyne Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 It means to let someone go in your heart and mind, to set them free to move on with their life, and not hold on.
Author UnknownFX Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 how can i do that? or what steps can i take in order to do that?
clementyne Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 (edited) how can i do that? or what steps can i take in order to do that? How exactly did you breakup? I mean are you the dumper or dumpee? If you're the dumpee, it's harder to let go cause you probably wanted to continue the relationship. The thing is, if she does not want to continue the relationship with you, you have to acknowledge and come to terms with that. It sounds like you haven't accepted that it's over - so that's what you gotta do first. Accept the breakup and grieve your loss. Then try to examine what exactly went wrong. Maybe things weren't as good as you thought or maybe you just weren't right for each other? Focus on the negatives and see her for who she really is. She probably had faults too like anyone, so it's best to focus on those to take her off the pedestal you may have placed her on, in your mind. And she obviously didn't love you enough to stay with you, so ask yourself why would you wanna hold on to someone who doesn't want you? Don't you deserve better than that? Do you really wanna hold on to someone who wants to be free of you? If you haven't yet implemented NC, then do so immediately. It's for your own benefit and healing. That means deleting her number, removing/blocking her on any social media sites like Facebook, not attempting to initiate contact and not responding if she tries to contact you. If you have any mementos of her, box them up and put them away somewhere for now. After you've done that, it's time to focus on you. Make some time for yourself to come to terms with everything, to mourn, heal and also do things which you enjoy and make you feel good. It's really important to fill your life with other positive things so that you don't fixate too much on the breakup. If you feel sad or low, then write down your feelings, or come on here and start a Coping Log to express your feelings. Share your thoughts with others here and know that you're not alone. Good luck Edited October 1, 2013 by clementyne 1
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