MrTurk Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Last week, a woman used one of the features on the dating site, to notify me that she was interested.(obviously this is there for those too shy to just send an email) I got the notification whilst I was getting dressed for work, and planned on contacting her later that day. So later that day, when I went to contact her, I noticed she had either disabled or deleted her account. Today, when I check my account, I notice that her profile is back on, so I take the opportunity to send her an email....... ME: Hello, I see that you are back again You clicked my pic last week then disappeared. My name is Jack HER: Hello, I'm Jill ME: Nice to meet you. I think you and me may be the only ones in this area without kids Did you grow up here, or recently move to this area? HER: No I grew up here ME: I'm born and raised right here in ******. The house I bought is only a few streets over from where I grew up. Traffic can be a pain at times, but I'm sort of used to it. What do you do for work? HER: I work for a local company Seriously???? THIS is exactly what I'm talking about! Can she be any more drap in her replies?? Remember SHE contacted me first using a flirt feature, or whatever you want to call it. I didn ask her WHO she worked for...I asked what she does. NO SH*T you work for a local company....you gotta at least pretend like you are interested in having a conversation. And of course....just like I've said 100 times...the women here never lift a finger to reciprocate or build on the conversation. Almost every woman that has replied to me pretty much has the same ho-hum response. I understand I'm not setting the world on fire with my dialogue....but once you get some rapport back and forth....thats when it can get rolling. She is giving me no help whatsoever. She is giving me the impression that shes not even interested in talking. If so....why the hell did she even reply to begin with?
Author MrTurk Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 Just for the hell of it....I sent her another message asking her if she'd like to talk on the phone. I sent the message at 5pm yesterday the 30th. She replies this morning at 6am with "Sure" and gives me her number. I contact said number this evening..... Guess what... WRONG NUMBER And yes I verified that I did not make a mistake. SHE either made a mistake(I dont see how) OR she gave me a false number on purpose. This is one for the ages.
Silly_Girl Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Why did you ask for her number? She appeared either insincere or the single most boring person in the world. It's no wonder you end up wound up
emva07 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 this is not one for the ages. Classic case of disinterested girl giving out the wrong number.
Author MrTurk Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 this is not one for the ages. Classic case of disinterested girl giving out the wrong number. THATS the point.....if shes disinterested, WHY is she even replying??
Author MrTurk Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 Why did you ask for her number? She appeared either insincere or the single most boring person in the world. It's no wonder you end up wound up Because I'm trying to be more open, instead of being a negative nancy, slamming the door on every situation that doesnt go exactly right. I figured maybe she is just shy, or not into email, so the phone might work better.
HeartDesires Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Well, for starters I haven't done OLD (yet). I'm shy and would likely give the same replies she did. I'd enjoy a phone conversation...why she gave you a wrong number is most perplexing
candie13 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 hum ... asking questions as "which company you work for" is terribly direct, maybe too personal, especially if it's a small city. Why don't you stick to general questions, such as hobbies, music, stuff she likes to do and avoid any personal questions until you feel like is the connection is there? I mean, what if she is a cleaning lady? Really? What, cleaning ladies aren't allowed to use OLD? Or if she's a VP in Finance in the only large company in the area, who wants to avoid saying that out in the open? I mean, look at it from her perspective: "there I am, talking to this stranger who took no interest in me or in what I like, asking me not even what I do for a living, but whom do I work for. And the second time he talks to me, he asks for my phone number... yeah, right!!!" You were way too pushy. She could have told: "I don't know you and I don't feel comfortable to share these private conversations with you." Maybe you freaked her out. 1
candie13 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 and why on Earth you'd go NUTS over this? It's just a stranger on OLD, maybe a weirdo or a wacko... you're a bit intense, no?
Author MrTurk Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 (edited) What do you do for work? hum ... asking questions as "which company you work for" is terribly direct, maybe too personal, especially if it's a small city. You were way too pushy. She could have told: "I don't know you and I don't feel comfortable to share these private conversations with you." Maybe you freaked her out. WHERE IN THE HELL did you read that I asked her specifically WHAT company she works for???? ARE YOU BLIND???? I asked what she does for work. That is as general as you can get. She can answer I'm an accountant, I'm a teacher, I'm a waitress.... SERIOUSLY???? Did you even read what I wrote???? HOW IN THE HELL was my generalized questions TOO PUSHY????? I can not believe you actually wrote that. Edited October 2, 2013 by MrTurk
candie13 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 ok, my bad.... I honestly read "where do you work?" still, I'd sort of avoid questions about work, because they may be perceived as too personal. Eeeaaasssyyyyyy... especially if you don't know whom you're talking to. What if she is a scarry cat? easy...
Author MrTurk Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 ok, my bad.... I honestly read "where do you work?" still, I'd sort of avoid questions about work, because they may be perceived as too personal. Eeeaaasssyyyyyy... especially if you don't know whom you're talking to. What if she is a scarry cat? easy... Dont tell me easy....learn to READ before you write.
candie13 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Don't get mad with me for what a stranger did to you. what, you feel like me telling you she's a wacko? Will that make you and your ego feel better? if you're smart, you will learn to appreciate that people with different opinions from yours bring a different perspective, actually tell you something you don't know. So before asking her where she lives, what she does for a living and what's her phone number, connect with that woman. just my 2 cents
GorillaTheater Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 .. you're a bit intense, no? WHERE IN THE HELL did you read that I asked her specifically WHAT company she works for???? ARE YOU BLIND???? I asked what she does for work. That is as general as you can get. She can answer I'm an accountant, I'm a teacher, I'm a waitress.... SERIOUSLY???? Did you even read what I wrote???? HOW IN THE HELL was my generalized questions TOO PUSHY????? I can not believe you actually wrote that. Too intense?? What gave you THAT idea? 4
Emilia Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Your lack of attention is more annoying than anything that woman did on the dating site. Hm somehow I don't think it's the women that have issues.... People are more perceptive than you think.
Mascara Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Blimey, calm down. I've had this too, it's NOT a gender thing. Some people just don't know how to communicate disinterest, so they think the polite thing to do is respond, but in a way that you're supposed to get it.
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