sickpuppy Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 The girl who blew me off is leaving my part time to go full time elsewhere. (Could be also since holiday's are coming up and it's busy she might be wanting more free time to spend either with an ex who's come back or some new guy she really likes. But that's neither here nor there in regards to me. lol) I'm not sure why I even bothered sending it as we haven't talked since I'd last run into her like two weeks ago and her asking me how the thing I wanted her to go to with me (that she didn't go to) yet never counter offered etc. was. I think I just wanted to send it to get some sort of closure for myself and to leave things off on a good note even though she never responded. I told her in text that: "I heard the news that you were leaving, I'm really going to miss you, but I'm happy for you as well. (I also said maybe we'll meet up sometime in the future if she's up for it.) Wishing you all the best. Talk to you soon. My name." And left it at that. Not that it means anything to her and I know we'll never talk again but I guess I just wanted to say goodbye. Has anyone else ever closed things out for themselves regardless of if there was never anything truly there?
Joaquin Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 No harm in what you did. You never know. Maybe she might take a more positive view toward you another time. Timing is very important.
Author sickpuppy Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 No harm in what you did. You never know. Maybe she might take a more positive view toward you another time. Timing is very important. Yea. I just figured it was a good thing to do to get closure for myself as I'm positive regardless nothing would've ever come of things anyway. There's a definite age gap. She's almost 28 I'm 44. Completely georgeous, yet there was something about her besides that. Obviously she never felt the same. I just thought it was good for myself to just close things out on a good note regardless of how she if ever felt or feels about me.
CarrieT Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Sorry, Sickpuppy, but that message screams desperation and I don't think you will ever hear from her... Your age difference may have something to do with it as well.
Author sickpuppy Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Sorry, Sickpuppy, but that message screams desperation and I don't think you will ever hear from her... Your age difference may have something to do with it as well. I know. I think I sent it purposely to close things out knowing I'd never hear from her again anyway. I really never chased her and barely texted her. We'd talk on occassion. And I would at various times catch her looking at me, smiling or coming up to talk to me though to be honest it was probably just for some attention while she was after someone better for her. I kindof feel like an idiot anyway for thinking we'd ever get to really know each other. Since she's a girl who could easily get almost any guy she wanted. lol It just svcks as I'm not the type to run after every girl trying to get dates or just going after younger girls. I have to get to know them first to see. Yet that never seems to work out for me. Not trying to get down on myself but it is what it is.
Art_Critic Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Well.. at least you got the last word in.. huh ? sometimes that's what it takes...
Author sickpuppy Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Well.. at least you got the last word in.. huh ? sometimes that's what it takes... LMAO. No I wasn't just trying to get the last word in. Just a goodbye text. I guess though that text was just what it took to never hear from her again. lol. Cest La Vie.
scorpiogirl Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I doubt this girl has been giving you as much thought as you have given her. You sound like you've been so passive agressive about the whole thing. It would be most unpleasant to be around you if your posts are anything to go by. You've started multiple threads about her and write about her in other people's threads. I doubt you have closure. But seriously. Move on.
Author sickpuppy Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 I doubt this girl has been giving you as much thought as you have given her. You sound like you've been so passive agressive about the whole thing. It would be most unpleasant to be around you if your posts are anything to go by. You've started multiple threads about her and write about her in other people's threads. I doubt you have closure. But seriously. Move on. I don't doubt it either to be honest. I completely agree with you. I was just simply sharing my experience. I'm not sure how explaining something and thinking aloud about the situation makes me seem passive agressive. (What am I going to do but move on?) I do need to move on though I agree. Just sharing my last thoughts on the issue.
Author sickpuppy Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 No harm in what you did. You never know. Maybe she might take a more positive view toward you another time. Timing is very important. Guess not. I just heard from her. She thanked me and said we'll keep in touch. We made quick small talk and left it at that for now. It felt good to at least leave things off on a good note whether anything ever comes of it or not.
henderson14 Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I think it's ok. I've done it before. I think it lets her know that you are ok with not dating her and accept it and are not mad at her.
TB Rhine Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Personally, I wouldn't advise this. I used to do this sort of thing all the time, and as much as you may think you're doing it purely for "closure," there's probably a teeny-tiny part of you that's hoping it'll provoke a reaction out of her, as well. What's more, she probably knows that, or WILL once you try and "casually" contact her again here in a week or two. That said - and depending on the wording of the portion of your message you seem to have (purposely?) obscured - I think you handled it pretty well -i.e., not the best thing to do, but you seem to have done it about as well as it CAN be done. I was usually much more maudlin/obvious with such messages.
Author sickpuppy Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 Personally, I wouldn't advise this. I used to do this sort of thing all the time, and as much as you may think you're doing it purely for "closure," there's probably a teeny-tiny part of you that's hoping it'll provoke a reaction out of her, as well. What's more, she probably knows that, or WILL once you try and "casually" contact her again here in a week or two. That said - and depending on the wording of the portion of your message you seem to have (purposely?) obscured - I think you handled it pretty well -i.e., not the best thing to do, but you seem to have done it about as well as it CAN be done. I was usually much more maudlin/obvious with such messages. I'll leave it as is for now. I'll see her wednesday night and or friday her last day when working. I'll say goodbye in person. If I hear from her afterwards I hear from her. If not I'll just leave it be. Just wanted to leave it on a good note. Don't think anything will come of it to be honest. she really is a gorgeous girl and pretty cool regardless if anything comes of it.
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