Mittens2317 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 So, I'm on my sixth day of NC. I'm the dumpee. She's sent me one text and three Facebook messages since, all of which have been ignored. Thing is, she kept the gaff, I moved back into my mam's. She's asking if I put her CV onto her computer for her, and it seems she's lost her job (it was a temp agency one anyway) Now, I understand that this isn't really my problem, only for a few things... - Our three pets are still "ours", not hers, and I'm honestly concerned for their well-being. - Furniture and appliances have been borrowed from MY family. - My dad used to live in the same house (we moved in once he moved to the one next door), and still has a shed in the garden he needs to move. - Oh, and obviously I'm still in love with her, and I'm concerned coz she doesn't really have anywhere to go. (...and she has my Xbox) I know, and I understand that this looks like desperation on my part to break NC, but I'm genuinely concerned about the situation. I don't have it in me to just sit back and allow things to "just happen" out of my own need to heal. That's not the kinda person I am. I honestly don't know what the best thing to do is. The smart money is to just email a copy of her CV just in case, I believe. I'm also pretty sure that half of you will say that, and the other half will say "No, keep NC", but then there's my pets. The **** I've still got there. And obviously that feeling that, considering her recent senseless money splurges, she's trying to sabotage her life due to a relapse with her depression, and I've merely been a casualty of that. Again, sounds like desperation, but I know her better than I know myself, and the evidence just won't go away. Anyway, what are your thoughts? Should I stick to NC, send a CV, offer help, or something entirely different that I'm missing due to clouded judgement or some ****?
h0000 Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 nope you should just leave her alone. seriously...who needs the pity? it may give her wrong impression (that you want her back)
Bubberfly Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I've done this before as the dumpee. He'd call me up and ask how I'm doing or would want to tell me how amazing his life is now without me. And I always think, oh he still has my computer. Oh, I wonder how his niece is doing. He owes me $20 for this or that.... Always, there's something stupid out there for me to contact him and ask him about. I asked myself why quite often. And then I realized I MISS him. I'm still not at a point in my life where I'm fully willing to accept that he didn't WANT me in his life. And then I think, "psh, I can buy another computer. His niece was always a brat. Twenty dollars ain't nothing." If your dad needs his stuff, let him call her and take care of it. She shouldn't want you in her life only when things get rough, she should have wanted you through both good bad boring stressful, ALL the time. It's her loss. You are right to keep the no contact. Give yourself time to heal.
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