sportygirl84 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 So I started dating someone about 2 months ago that I totally fell for unexpectedly. I am not the kind that goes out seeking love. If it comes to me, if it doesn't, life goes on. The fist month was fantastic! We were having so much fun! Then I lost my job, his uncle died, and we just started fighting so much about everything from him acting weird and distant, to over the littlest things. We had one of our biggest fights, the ones before were me expressing that my feelings would get hurt and him just not wanting to deal with it but would. He went away for business for a month and then we got into a huge fight, that nearly ended our dating courtship. And the next few days, I found him on match.com and exploded on him. I was so angry. He told me he was doing nothing wrong but for me, it was a huge signal of I want to meet someone else and I am not interested in you like I once was. I thought we were exclusive. We had the talk before he left for his business trip. It was just hurtful to me since we both took down our other dating profiles from another site that we had met on. We haven't talked in 3 days and had another miss-communication about us being exclusive. He said we never had the talk when we did. I ignored him for 2 days after the hurtful words of him saying you're not my girlfriend and then I responded the other day, saying it would of been helpful to know we weren't exclusive and I was in shock about what I found out, the way I did. We haven't ended it but we haven't really talked either. We usually talk every single day multiple times throughout the day and I am just wondering any feed back on if it's over or if it's not? I want to stop fighting with him and getting upset, but the further we go the more upset I get. He changed and I get he is grieving but it's so hard to be around this. Any advice?
ExpatInItaly Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 He evidently isn't on the same page as you about the nature of your relationship. He's sending very clear signals that he does not consider you to be exclusive and does not consider you his girlfriend. He conveniently "forgot" that you had a talk about being exclusive? What a load of bs. He's got a profile on Match.com, so he's obviously interested in seeing other women. Don't wait for him to decide if it's over - if you want an exclusive relationship, you're not going to get it from him right now. 1
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