Jonson Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Been broke up with ex girl for near 2 months, we been out a few times quite awhile ago and it was OK no tension. She broke up with me. So she keeps calling, one time near midnight on a Friday night? Like she was checking up on me. I think she knows I still like her, But my ex keeps saying we should hang out one day, so I asked her and she says she's busy I'm just trying to be nice to her by staying friends. She then asks me what I'm doing this weekend? What does that mean does she wanna hang out? I know when we broke she was having big problems at her job, she now has another job and had been working 12 hours shifts. So I know she was stressed about her job when we broke up. I don't get some of the signs she is sending she is really nice to me still, but she keeps saying lets me up. But in the last few weeks she has bailed, but with her working so much I guess that's normal. But it seems she won't tell me where I stand with her , she has talked about old times and said she fell in love with me this one day. I don't call her for a few weeks, , then she calls late at night and tells me what's been going on, she also says I hope you don't hate me to much? She called late sat night after 1 am, and I think she was drunk she wanted attention she seemed kinda frazzled not all there. She was ready to pass out quickly and then say goodnight. So she has called me the last 4 days in a row, she then says she just wants someone who cares and wants her for who she is. She then says I know you care about me and you have proved that. She starts talking about our past and says I was really nice to her. We have not talked about this kinda stuff since we broke up. I said well there is alot more to me than you have seen, she then says well the same goes for me to. I'm sure she is single right now to. She asks how I'm doing etc I still kinda like her but not trying to push anything. If we are meant to get back I want it be natural and just happen. But she is sending mixed signals, and says she wants to hang out. I seen her about 3 weeks ago and she flirted with me a bit and then when I left she asked could she have a hug, she gave me one of those really nice tight I miss you ones. I'm not waiting around for her I have alot of female friends and things to do. But I still care about her and would be willing to try again. It seems she is not sure on when she wants to see me again, she keeps saying we will meet up one day. I know she has been so busy with work and now starting a new job, plus her kids. What should I do next, should I keep calling or texting her? What should my plan be if I want her back?
Babolat Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 (edited) My guess is she having a dicciult time letting go, it's still comfortable to be "with" you and she gets something out of keeping in touch with you, something she needs right now. Been there, done that myself, only as the dumper where she kept contacting me, and still is. My advice, full NC, and tell her that. Edited September 30, 2013 by Babolat
Author Jonson Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 My guess is she having a dicciult time letting go, it's still comfortable to be "with" you and she gets something out of keeping in touch with you, something she needs right now. Been there, done that myself, only as the dumper where she kept contacting me, and still is. My advice, full NC, and tell her that. I tried nc and she called less than 2 weeks later, my friend said she might want to get back with me. I still like her and want her back, but I wNt to know the best way of going about this?
scorpiogirl Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I don't think you should do anything. No contact really is the best thing for you. It's not about playing games but doing what's right for you. It can do one of two things: she will either realise she made a mistake and knows what she had in you and she will try to get back together. Or the no contact will start to help you get over it. Either way, you need it. Even if she calls don't answer. Block her number if you need to to make it easier for yourself. She may be calling to make the break up transition easier for her. That's not fair to you as you still have feelings for her. Don't over-analyse what everything means. Just don't take her calls. She's being selfish by staying in touch with.
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