SSully237 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 First and foremost, my ex is a great father. My ex and I are currently going through a custody battle. We have a 14 month old together. We have been split up for about eight months. I originally split up from him and he tried all he could to get us back together, but I wanted a separation for a while. Well he eventually found someone else, then of course it hit me and I was devastated. They were together only four months so even though it was a rebound relationship, I truly believed he loved her. She was like a second mom to my child, which was really hard to watch. They have since broken up. During their relationship when they had short breaks, my ex &I talked about reconciling someday but the problems were still there that split us up. So we would get along but then the next minute there was an issue. We are both extremely stubborn. I have to admit I tried to break them up a few times. I was very immature. He has a lot of anger because of that. We have now gotten to the point where things are really emotional between us because of this custody battle. We have been together sexually twice recently which is a mistake I know. One day he is nice and texting me & the next he is horribly mean telling me "I'm nothing as a parent, and to quit texting him unless it's in regards to our daughter." We really loved each other before and were a great little family but a lot of bad things have been said/done in past few months after splitting and now going through this custody battle. Should I go limited contact with him? Why is he doing this? It's been 8 days since we have had any contact currently. I've tried apologizing but he is so back and forth. We haven't tried to reconcile since May/June but things didn't really go anywhere then because he had just broken up with his gf and I still think to this day he is upset about her and him. They no longer communicate. We have a stronger bond, share a child..but we just have so much anger towards each other...not to mention we don't get along with each other's families because of this custody issue. I've tried mentioning reconciling to him...maybe even somewhere in the future. He has never told me "no it's over" but has never given me an answer. He just ignores it. What can I do?
Keenly Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I don't think he wants to reconcile. You left him and he tried pretty hard it sounds like to get back with you but you weren't having any of it. Now you all of a sudden want to get back together and he knows its just going to happen again.
Stealth3 Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 You dumped him and it sounds like he tried really hard to win you back.....he was probably really hurt. Being dumped and wanting someone back is a terrible feeling. Then he found someone else and you came back because either you got jealous or you realized grass aint greener on the other side and he aint so bad after all. So yeah, no wonder right now he doesn't want you. It's hard to want someone that comes back after you moved on even though you tried so hard to win them back initially. You might be able to make it work, but the trust will never be as it was. Better to just move on, people do **** in life that they regret.
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