elmichi Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Okay, so I am 22 and met this guy (23) off of Tinder (smartphone dating app). We are both new to the area. Anyways, we have chatted over text for a couple of weeks.. nothing really more than get to you Q's/how was your day, etc. Didn't chat everyday, no real flirting. He asked me to go get a drink on sunday and I was supposed to meet him at a local bar/brewery that we previously spoke about. He hasn't been flakey, HE set the date on Thursday and said he would follow up on sat with a time/place, which he did. he said 'hey I'm really sorry to do this, but I will not be able to make it tonight. Family emergency type thing. really sorry and I said that's okay, I totally understand. hope everything turns out okay, let me know if you need anything! and he just replied "thanks"---He also deleted his tinder profile today which makes me think he made up the excuse. Should I just never text him again? If I can, what should I say? I personally would feel bad lying about a family emergency and he did say he was really sorry, twice.. but idk
btc8 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Okay, so I am 22 and met this guy (23) off of Tinder (smartphone dating app). We are both new to the area. Anyways, we have chatted over text for a couple of weeks.. nothing really more than get to you Q's/how was your day, etc. Didn't chat everyday, no real flirting. He asked me to go get a drink on sunday and I was supposed to meet him at a local bar/brewery that we previously spoke about. He hasn't been flakey, HE set the date on Thursday and said he would follow up on sat with a time/place, which he did. he said 'hey I'm really sorry to do this, but I will not be able to make it tonight. Family emergency type thing. really sorry and I said that's okay, I totally understand. hope everything turns out okay, let me know if you need anything! and he just replied "thanks"---He also deleted his tinder profile today which makes me think he made up the excuse. Should I just never text him again? If I can, what should I say? I personally would feel bad lying about a family emergency and he did say he was really sorry, twice.. but idk The fact that he contacted you to tell you about the emergency (whether or not it happened), means he didn't blow you off. If he wanted to blow you off, then he just wouldn't show up, let alone give you an excuse. What I would do is just wait things out and let him contact you. Technically, if that were to happen to me and I was the one who cancelled, I'd recontact my date as soon as the situation has settled to reschedule.
Author elmichi Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 The fact that he contacted you to tell you about the emergency (whether or not it happened), means he didn't blow you off. If he wanted to blow you off, then he just wouldn't show up, let alone give you an excuse. What I would do is just wait things out and let him contact you. Technically, if that were to happen to me and I was the one who cancelled, I'd recontact my date as soon as the situation has settled to reschedule. But why cancel/make up an excuse if you're interested? I would have given him the benefit of the doubt (as he has been trustworthy over text thus far) but the fact that he also deleted the profile we met on the same day makes me wonder, you know? Any other takes on this?
btc8 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 But why cancel/make up an excuse if you're interested? I would have given him the benefit of the doubt (as he has been trustworthy over text thus far) but the fact that he also deleted the profile we met on the same day makes me wonder, you know? Any other takes on this? Well, he probably IS interested, that's why he called you and cancelled and provided an excuse. Most people just wouldn't show up, let alone give you an excuse. And, if it is truly a family issue, that stuff requires some time to resolve depending on the severity. I wouldn't connect the deletion of his profile with anything in particular. YOU have his number, and he has yours, so I think that makes the previous issue moot, in my opinion.
clia Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 If he doesn't contact you again within a few days to reschedule, you will know he blew you off. You should not under any circumstances contact him again. The ball is in his court. Personally, I think he's full of it. 2
sickpuppy Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 But why cancel/make up an excuse if you're interested? I would have given him the benefit of the doubt (as he has been trustworthy over text thus far) but the fact that he also deleted the profile we met on the same day makes me wonder, you know? Any other takes on this? I don't know about tinder but how do you know "he" is actually the person you were talking to in the pictures? Some guys will literally steal pictures off the net of really good looking guys just to test who women respond to. Then they inact some sort of revenge by the guy in the pictures blowing them off. It could even be done by some guy who's contacted you before whom you blew off or never responded to. He could be some guy who really liked you but since his pics possibly weren't him he dropped out on the meetup. Not saying this is definitely the case but it could be if you never actually met face to face.
Author elmichi Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 I don't know about tinder but how do you know "he" is actually the person you were talking to in the pictures? Some guys will literally steal pictures off the net of really good looking guys just to test who women respond to. Then they inact some sort of revenge by the guy in the pictures blowing them off. It could even be done by some guy who's contacted you before whom you blew off or never responded to. He could be some guy who really liked you but since his pics possibly weren't him he dropped out on the meetup. Not saying this is definitely the case but it could be if you never actually met face to face. I don't think so. I'll admit, I creeped a bit on one of the details he told me. Googled it and he checks out, same name and pics. I was thinking maybe he backed out because he was scared I wasn't real lol. I just find it so strange that he planned the date, he initiated conversation in the first place, and then he was the one to hesitate. I'm disappointed! I guess I won't text and just wait and see.
sickpuppy Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I don't think so. I'll admit, I creeped a bit on one of the details he told me. Googled it and he checks out, same name and pics. I was thinking maybe he backed out because he was scared I wasn't real lol. I just find it so strange that he planned the date, he initiated conversation in the first place, and then he was the one to hesitate. I'm disappointed! I guess I won't text and just wait and see. Could be he's just ended or is back in a relationship with an ex? Maybe he does really like you but is scared to make a move? No one can know for sure. I guess you've done all you can do for now till you hear from him possibly in the future.
Author elmichi Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Hm. Now that I think about it, maybe he just saw me as a friend? I don't know why he'd be on a dating app, but he did start talking to me cause I was new to the area also. I, for the life of me, couldn't get him to flirt. The most I got was calling him cute and he said I was quite cute myself. lol but now I maybe just be making up theories.
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