jewels1965 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I almost hate writing this thread because I feel like I know the answer before asking. However, I am still struggling with these not so cool feelings about my present relationship. I have be with him for almost two years and we have something good. My problem is his past. He has had 4 serious and fairly long lasting relationships that did not work out, one of them he was engaged for a short period of time. He is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. He spent 8 years as a cross dresser. I have seen a picture of him with a transsexual and they look like they were more than friends, she is sitting close with her arm entwined with his. There is a picture of him dressed up for a halloween party. He is with two other men dressed. He is lifting his shirt up and the other man is pinching his nipple through his bra. He has told me that he is done with cross dressing, he hasnt dressed for over 6 years, but from everything that I have read you dont ever get over cross dressing. Cross dressers always will have the need to dress. We have talked about this and he assures me that this is not what he wants to dress any more. He told me that he would lie to me to save my feelings. Well thats about it in a nutshell. So, here is my problem. Its not the past dressing and its not the old girlfriends. Its that every time i think I am ok with him and forgetting the past, another situation and another picture shows up. I seem to have to start all over and dealing with my emotions about it. I just dont know how much more I can deal. I hope this makes sense. Its hard to ask him questions without sounding judgmental. Anyone else dealing with something similar? Advice is welcom.
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