alexjames Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I have been with this girl for just around 3 weeks. When she is at home, her mum is really protective and so we only see each other a couple of times a week and for just 2/3 hours at most each time. We have also said we are going to take things really slow.(I'm 21 and she's 18). She has been on holiday for the past week with her mum. Because of this we have been talking when we can on facebook and snapchat. The other day she put a status on Facebook saying she is loving her holiday and doesn't want to come back, other than to see her Grandad who is the ONLY person she is missing. She has apparantly told the barman (she has became friendly with him and the lifeguard.. just how friendly I don't know...) that she has a BF when he asked her, and he said how lucky I am etc. She is coming home Today, and she sent me a snapchat this morning with a sad face saying she feels sad as she is going home today and she is sad because of that and i told her I am missing her and she didn't respond, she asked how I am feeling, so I told her the truth that my diabetes is playing up so I'm feeling horrible. She said she hope I feel better soon, I just told her I am better, she read the message, but again, no response. She put a status on facebook a little while ago saying how she doesn't want to go home, and her lifeguard and barman friends from the hotel replied with sad faces, I put '''' on her status and she never put anything. My work mate put something along the lines of ''but ****(me) will be pleased to see you'' and she still never replied! She has told me she is now going back to the pool so going offline, but she is still online but not replying to my messages. But most days she has said that she has missed me a bit and wants a kiss and cuddle, but now I'm not really sure, she seems a bit ''distant''. Am I over thinking things or do I have cause for concern? I really like her, but I'm not sure how she feels about me to be honest :/ I've missed her so much, but know/think she doesn't feel the same way
Mascara Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 She's on holiday, she's having fun... don't make this about you. You've only just met her, you seriously shouldn't be putting all his intensity on her. And this bit - I told her the truth that my diabetes is playing up so I'm feeling horrible( Seriously? You complained? So right now, she's comparing the carefree fun she's having on holiday....with the boy back home who's sick and fed up? I don't know why people do this, be all sad and on a downer - it's not going to make her want you any more. People want to be with someone because they like how they make them feel. No matter how you were feeling you should have said "great! Been catching up with some friends and we're going out tonight, hope you have fun too, see you later!"
Author alexjames Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 I suppose so, Mascara. I have just been at home alone this past week (parents are on holiday aswell!) so have been over thinking things I guess. The fact that she has messaged me a few times this holiday must show that she does want to talk to me I suppose. But I suppose what does make me think, is she replies to ANYBODY else who writes on her facebook ''wall' or comments on her pics/statuses, but not when I do. She has refused (before she went away) to put it on there about us being together and even refused to have a photo with me, and yet her facebook is FULL of pictures of her cuddling, standing next too, drinking with and swimming with these other guys who work in the hotel. I know we haven't been together long, but why would you refuse a photo with your boyfriend? She has said she doesn't want anything ''serious'' yet, and neither do I as we only just together, but why feel ashamed to admit to being with me on facebook or refuse a photo with me etc?!
Mascara Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I don't know, but if she's refused, that means you've asked. You need to back right off with the intensity. Stop looking at Facebook and go out with friends - if you dwell on her, you'll over think it even more.
Author alexjames Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 I don't know, but if she's refused, that means you've asked. You need to back right off with the intensity. Stop looking at Facebook and go out with friends - if you dwell on her, you'll over think it even more. I've decided to leave her alone now, and won't message her until I next hear from her. She comes home Tonight (flies at 2am) so hopefully she will text in the morning or whatever and I will just take things from there. She might be more talkative with me etc once she's back and not on holiday etc
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