HighheelsAries Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I need some advice, something doesnt add up... I have a colleague who is like a little brother to me. He often goes out with my boyfriend and me, and I was so happy when he told me he met this awesome girl. He described her as sweet, kind, classy, mature. He is only 23 but very mature and responsible and a great guy- you know the kind you will be happy to take home to Mom. He told me she was 28, a Mom to a 5 year old, a brunette sort of apple pie wholesome girl. We all met on Saturday- at a rock concert. I am confused- she is platinum blond now, smokes weed (I don't think he saw this), and in my opinion quite brash, trashy and common. She was rude, inconsiderate and not very intelligent. I don't like being mean in my judgement of her, but that is what she is. Granted, she is gorgeous, but wow, I expect her to be a guest of Jerry Springer. I haven't said anything to him yet as he is away for the next three days, but she is so wrong for him. Is he blind or confused? Or does he just not see it? I want him to be happy, but wow, this isn't the girl he thinks she is. What do you think is going on here?
soccerrprp Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 If he were my little brother (and he's not nor yours), I would tell him about my perception of her based on this. I know, I know, none of my business or wait to be asked first, but "if" he were like a brother to me, I would volunteer my opinion anyway and see how he reacts. If he invites to further discuss, okay, if not, then leave it for now.
TigerCub Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 So you met her once at a rock concert and from that meeting you were able to note that she's inconsiderate and unintelligent? How did you get that? I mean, I assume that there isn't really too much deep conversation during a rock concert? Either way, if she is rude and trashy on top of inconsiderate and dumb, your friend must have noticed because he has hung out with her more than the one time. He's 23. I doubt he's looking for marriage, and even by your admission she's gorgeous and so that's what he's most likely noticing. Let him have his fun, all those things you noticed (if they are accurate) don't bother him. I'd say, give him advice only if he asks for it. He seems old enough to make his own choices regarding who he dates. 3
Mascara Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 It's the other side of a girl going for the bad boy. She doesn't see that he's bad, and won't listen to anyone who'll point out his flaws. There are just as many men who go for the trashy mean woman over the "nice girl". And just as with the bad boy thing, they won't listen. So you could well be wasting your time, I wouldn't advise talking to him about it.
clia Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I need some advice, something doesnt add up... I have a colleague who is like a little brother to me. He often goes out with my boyfriend and me, and I was so happy when he told me he met this awesome girl. He described her as sweet, kind, classy, mature. He is only 23 but very mature and responsible and a great guy- you know the kind you will be happy to take home to Mom. He told me she was 28, a Mom to a 5 year old, a brunette sort of apple pie wholesome girl. We all met on Saturday- at a rock concert. I am confused- she is platinum blond now, smokes weed (I don't think he saw this), and in my opinion quite brash, trashy and common. She was rude, inconsiderate and not very intelligent. I don't like being mean in my judgement of her, but that is what she is. Granted, she is gorgeous, but wow, I expect her to be a guest of Jerry Springer. I haven't said anything to him yet as he is away for the next three days, but she is so wrong for him. Is he blind or confused? Or does he just not see it? I want him to be happy, but wow, this isn't the girl he thinks she is. What do you think is going on here? The bolded is all you need to know. He's 23, she's gorgeous, he's smitten.
stillafool Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 She's probably blowing his mind in the bedroom and he likes it. It's best to keep your opinion to yourself. 1
candie13 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 She was rude, inconsiderate and not very intelligent. I don't like being mean in my judgement of her, but that is what she is. Or does he just not see it? What do you think is going on here? Oh, he sees her alright... he just ain't listening to her that much 1
yankees51988 Posted October 8, 2013 Posted October 8, 2013 Lol yeah he is 23 and she is gorgeous so she gets some leeway. Also, who cares if she was smoking weed? She is a 28 year old lady and can make her own decisions, why should he be all controlling over some girl he just met? Weren't you guys at a rock concert? It's not like she was doing it while driving her kid to day care...
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