helan12 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Hi LS people After I broke up with my ex bf 2 years ago due to him cheating I am afraid of getting close physically to anyone.He cheated both emotional and physical many times and I was too naive to realize(only to know after).He was my second sexual partner an I'm above 30 yrs old.Up to date, though I was in shortterm relation relationship 3-4 months I cant imagine anyone touching me or kissing me( relationships didn't last cuz I'm a freak if anyone gets close to me physically).I feel used and taken for granted. Anyone been in this situation before?I am starting to feel this became an issue.Even the idea of having sex with someone disgusts me.
Author helan12 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Also I was truly in love with my ex and fully committed.When I found out he was cheating all the time I became a vvvv cold person till now 2yrs later.
Philosoraptor Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Sounds like you clearly haven't moved on from his betrayal. His actions do not represent the entire population, and because one man cheated on you it doesn't mean that every other guy you meet is going to be deceitful. If physical contact and sex disgusts you, and you want to have a close relationship with someone, you may need to see a professional to help guide you through and past these feelings. 3
Author helan12 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Sounds like you clearly haven't moved on from his betrayal. His actions do not represent the entire population, and because one man cheated on you it doesn't mean that every other guy you meet is going to be deceitful. Perhaps I havnt moved on yet.Though i thought i did.I still have the thoughts of how could he,feeling humiliated sometimes.And surely can not trust anyone yet.I want to change myself and be able to love and trust men again.It seems so hard.( After 2years I should have been in a better place!!
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