crazybestie101 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Its long and complicated story .. Recently , i found out that my ex lied to me about him dating other girls post break up. He made up stories ..I am VERY sure there is no girl in picture. Kinda also felt indirectly that he has realized his mistakes after i went NC.. Now he doesnt come online or log on to social media as he used to, Just busy in his work . I cant see him like that . I MISS him tooo like anything and i know he is waiting for me to message him. What is all thissss , i thought i could go on with NC but i guess i will soon drop out..
HorseLuck Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 If he was interested with rekindling he would take the initiative to reach out to you, don't you think? 4
Author crazybestie101 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Who dumped who? He dumped me
h0000 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 why did he lie to you about having another girl? how did you find out he doesnt?
Author crazybestie101 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 If he was interested with rekindling he would take the initiative to reach out to you, don't you think? Well entire time , i was the one pushing him to do things , so its kinda his habit now. Everyone else told me that he wont initiate , why dont you do it .
HorseLuck Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 He dumped me How long have you been NC, and why did he dump you? short explanation.
Author crazybestie101 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 why did he lie to you about having another girl? how did you find out he doesnt? because i wasnt ready to let go , kept telling him we can work it out , came out clingy . So after getting tired he made up story. Well i follow him on instagram ( my fake account)..
Author crazybestie101 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 How long have you been NC, and why did he dump you? short explanation. He dumped me in april then tried being friends until june but my feelings came back again and again .. He got tired and told me end everything in August. went on NC then i texted him to wish him new year ( his religious new year) , he replied instantly. Then i went on NC again. Kinda felt he was expecting i would continue convo after that text . But i didnt look back after that and here we are in end of september.
h0000 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 because i wasnt ready to let go , kept telling him we can work it out , came out clingy . So after getting tired he made up story. Well i follow him on instagram ( my fake account).. Faking a gf just so you can stop contacting him is ...not a good sign..and you conclude he doesnt have other girls because you didnt see any picture with other girls on his instagram? maybe he just didnt post any? but ,what makes you think he is regretting breaking up with you though? your last message was like 9 months ago! most people would have moved on already...well...if your heart is strong enough you may contact him again I guess..
Author crazybestie101 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Faking a gf just so you can stop contacting him is ...not a good sign..and you conclude he doesnt have other girls because you didnt see any picture with other girls on his instagram? maybe he just didnt post any? but ,what makes you think he is regretting breaking up with you though? your last message was like 9 months ago! most people would have moved on already...well...if your heart is strong enough you may contact him again I guess.. Well i am sure there is no other girls because i know his Facebook friends and instagram followers, there are hardly girls ... some of them are his cousins and rest have boy friends. And there is no way if he is dating , the girl got to be in his friend list. And how i felt he is regretting because first time ever he is not getting online on social media that often like he used, he had been liking emotional pages about post breaks lol
h0000 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Though I dont see them as solid signs of him regretting the breakup, maybe you are right. You know him better. If you have made up your mind you should go for it. I'm curious how things will turn out as well. Having said that, there still will be a big chance you get disappointed. Are you ready for that?
Author crazybestie101 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Though I dont see them as solid signs of him regretting the breakup, maybe you are right. You know him better. If you have made up your mind you should go for it. I'm curious how things will turn out as well. Having said that, there still will be a big chance you get disappointed. Are you ready for that? I am also little scared but what should i do? I cant take this torture everyday. Like he is online but i cant talk to him. He might be thinking i would have moved on .. And anyways , if not now , i am definitely planning on reaching out to him on his birthday which in FEB next year. But again its too longgg. Not sure if i can control temptations..
h0000 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Have you ever considered moving on as an option instead of giving yourself a choice of contacting him again? If you have weighed everything and still think you should try again then no point waiting and wasting your time. Do it. 1
HorseLuck Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I am also little scared but what should i do? I cant take this torture everyday. Like he is online but i cant talk to him. He might be thinking i would have moved on .. And anyways , if not now , i am definitely planning on reaching out to him on his birthday which in FEB next year. But again its too longgg. Not sure if i can control temptations.. Tell me, what do you plan on saying to him?
Author crazybestie101 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Tell me, what do you plan on saying to him? well , i will say i cant do this any more , cant be strong any more. You need to hear me out . I miss you like anything. I cry every moment when i think of you. Cant we pass all that and rewrite something new. & what happen to guy who told me who is always going to be there for me , some one who got emotional whenever i cry.. Some one who was always sensible of my needs , someone who always did what i wanted. I also want to say that i am in love with him. I smile when i think of us together. I talk about him to my mom and roommates. I plan things i want to do when i meet him . You know even after all this situation , I am planning on flying to him and surprise him with bday cake ( he live 700 miles away).
h0000 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I think the only reason not to break NC is to avoid getting hurt again. But if you are so tempted and think you can handle the possible rejection, you should try ask him again. After all, no matter what you do it's not gonna change the result. So find out the result sooner rather than later and it can save you some time.
Author crazybestie101 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Have you ever considered moving on as an option instead of giving yourself a choice of contacting him again? If you have weighed everything and still think you should try again then no point waiting and wasting your time. Do it. I did try to speaking to other guy but again everything brought me back to my ex . After knowing him being single and all . I kinda became determined of contacting him
Author crazybestie101 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 I think the only reason not to break NC is to avoid getting hurt again. But if you are so tempted and think you can handle the possible rejection, you should try ask him again. After all, no matter what you do it's not gonna change the result. So find out the result sooner rather than later and it can save you some time. why do you feels that its always going to be rejection ?
HorseLuck Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 (edited) well , i will say i cant do this any more , cant be strong any more. You need to hear me out . I miss you like anything. I cry every moment when i think of you. Cant we pass all that and rewrite something new. & what happen to guy who told me who is always going to be there for me , some one who got emotional whenever i cry.. Some one who was always sensible of my needs , someone who always did what i wanted. I also want to say that i am in love with him. I smile when i think of us together. I talk about him to my mom and roommates. I plan things i want to do when i meet him . You know even after all this situation , I am planning on flying to him and surprise him with bday cake ( he live 700 miles away). You really have not been doing NC for an extended period of time. You shouldn't beat yourself up for feeling the temptation by succumbing to it, it's normal. You may not realize it but you may have made minor progress in healing since the beginning. If he rejected you once, he will reject you again. And I say he will reject you, because he has shown no interest. Usually guys would like to maintain friendship (for the wrong reasons usually), but he decided he didn't want that either because of how you were acting. It is not attractive to men at all to come across as needy. And if he dumped you due to issues you had, now is the time to work on that. If still, you decide to reach out- be prepared for the pain tenfold. It will be back to square 1. Edited September 30, 2013 by HorseLuck 1
h0000 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I did try to speaking to other guy but again everything brought me back to my ex . After knowing him being single and all . I kinda became determined of contacting him If you are determined then do it. I suppose 5 months later the rejection wouldn't hurt you too much anymore? (If he rejects you again) I wish you luck! And even if you two eventually wont have a happy ever after ending, I kind of feel sometimes with relationships you just have to struggle back and forth for a couple of times till your feelings can completely fade away lol Just curious have you managed to date/get with any other guy during the breakup? and you just think your ex is the best? and it's not because you are lonely and wants him as a backup?
Author crazybestie101 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 You really have not been doing NC for an extended period of time. You shouldn't beat yourself up for feeling the temptation by succumbing to it, it's normal. You may not realize it but you may have made minor progress in healing since the beginning. If he rejected you once, he will reject you again. And I say he will reject you, because he has shown no interest. Usually guys would like to maintain friendship (for the wrong reasons usually), but he decided he didn't want that because of how you were acting. Or use the knowledge that you're still interested to his advantage. It is not attractive to men at all to come across as needy. And if he dumped you due to issues you had, now is the time to work on that. If still, you decide to reach out- be prepared for the pain tenfold. It will be back to square 1. Well , expressing how you feel doesnt considered needy.. unlike other exes , i didnt text or email or call me like crazy. He said and i listened .. We never had any post break up drama. And if i happen to reach out , i wont tell him on face that i want to get back together. it will scare him away . May be just becoming friends and see..
h0000 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 why do you feels that its always going to be rejection ? Not saying "always" a rejection. But it is possible. If he likes you,no matter what you do he's gonna like it. If he has no interest anymore, no matter what you do( break NC or not) he wont be interested. Ultimately you should think if you can handle the worst. If you can then do it. It wont make things worse.
HorseLuck Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Well , expressing how you feel doesnt considered needy.. unlike other exes , i didnt text or email or call me like crazy. He said and i listened .. We never had any post break up drama. And if i happen to reach out , i wont tell him on face that i want to get back together. it will scare him away . May be just becoming friends and see.. * you said you came across as clingy. Or he said that you were. Ultimately your decision to make.
Author crazybestie101 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Not saying "always" a rejection. But it is possible. If he likes you,no matter what you do he's gonna like it. If he has no interest anymore, no matter what you do( break NC or not) he wont be interested. Ultimately you should think if you can handle the worst. If you can then do it. It wont make things worse. Do you think i should wait until he contacts me ? Thought this before..
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