I Met The Most Beautiful Girl I've Ever Seen While Getting My Haircut

[BabyBash]

I've been going to this salon for a while now for getting my hair cut and today there was a new girl cutting my hair and I swear she is the most gorgeous and sexy girl I've ever seen. Anyways, I'm usually not terribly shallow - I see tons of girls everyday I would gladly date but I am still mesmerized by this girl. On top of being so beautiful, she seemed smart (works with computers on the side for fun), not overly high maintenance and she gave me a near perfect haircut!

 

 

I felt a little bit awkward/intimidated at first but I became more comfortable and I think she started to feel more comfortable with me too. I wanna go back in about 3 weeks to get my hair cut again and make sure I have her do it

 

 

Any thoughts on this? I'm a good looking guy myself but man it's still daunting to be around a girl so beautiful. Has anybody here ever dated a girl who was giving them a service like a haircut? How hard is it to date somebody so beautiful?

Edited September 30, 2013 by BabyBash

[HorseLuck]

I've been going to this salon for a while now for getting my hair cut and today there was a new girl cutting my hair and I swear she is the most gorgeous and sexy girl I've ever seen. Anyways, I'm usually not terribly shallow - I see tons of girls everyday I would gladly date but I am still mesmerized by this girl. On top of being so beautiful, she seemed smart (works with computers on the side for fun), not overly high maintenance and she gave me a near perfect haircut!

 

 

I felt a little bit awkward/intimidated at first but I became more comfortable and I think she started to feel more comfortable with me too. I wanna go back in about 3 weeks to get my hair cut again and make sure I have her do it

 

 

Any thoughts on this? I'm a good looking guy myself but man it's still daunting to be around a girl so beautiful. Has anybody here ever dated a girl who was giving them a service like a haircut? How hard is it to date somebody so beautiful?

 

I'm a female, but I am in awe of the stylist who cuts my hair too. She's just perfect. Looks, personality. Maybe we share the same one? haha

[MrCastle]

she seemed smart (works with computers on the side for fun), not overly high maintenance and she gave me a near perfect haircut!

 

You got all of this from her cutting your hair?

 

Ease it up man. You're setting yourself up for disappointment if you go in with this thinking.

 

People are never as good as you picture them in your head. The more you get to know someone, the more you either look past and accept, or the more you realize they are not for you.

 

That's not to scare you off. You should approach this girl, very much so -- but putting her on a pedestal is what's giving you the fear to approach, and making her seem perfect in your mind will always lead to disappointment. No one is ever perfect.

 

Just look at her as a cool chick that you would like to get to know a little better and take it from there.

[BabyBash]

You got all of this from her cutting your hair?

 

I can smell high maintenance from quite a distance away (just tell by her mannerisms and how she dresses in most cases) and I can smell stupid after 30 seconds of talking to somebody...both are huge turnoffs

 

 

As far as the rest of your post goes. I'm not putting her on a pedestal...She is quite lovely but at the end of the day, my odds of making this happen are probably very small (I'm sure she gets hit on 50,000,000 times a day) so I'm okay with that

[MrCastle]

I can smell high maintenance from quite a distance away (just tell by her mannerisms and how she dresses in most cases) and I can smell stupid after 30 seconds of talking to somebody...both are huge turnoffs

 

 

As far as the rest of your post goes. I'm not putting her on a pedestal...She is quite lovely but at the end of the day, my odds of making this happen are probably very small (I'm sure she gets hit on 50,000,000 times a day) so I'm okay with that

 

It doesn't matter how many times she gets hit on. Let's just say for the sake of arguing she is as awesome as you say and does get hit on quite a bit -- so what? You have to have the confidence to believe you are better than every guy who approached her prior to.

 

Every physically attractive woman with a solid personality is sought after. Who wouldn't want that? But you don't know if you have a shot or not unless you toss your hat into the ring.

 

When I go after women, I do it with the knowledge and understanding that she is talking to, or at least getting approached by, several other men. My job is to just be the best man I can be so she forgets about the rest.

 

Confidence will get you far in this game.

[BabyBash]

It doesn't matter how many times she gets hit on. Let's just say for the sake of arguing she is as awesome as you say and does get hit on quite a bit -- so what? You have to have the confidence to believe you are better than every guy who approached her prior to.

 

It doesn't matter how awesome you are though because in many cases, your approach with her just kind of blends in with the other 50,000,000 guys hitting on her during that day/week/month. It's like a big blur

 

 

Every physically attractive woman with a solid personality is sought after. Who wouldn't want that? But you don't know if you have a shot or not unless you toss your hat into the ring

 

When I go after women, I do it with the knowledge and understanding that she is talking to, or at least getting approached by, several other men. My job is to just be the best man I can be so she forgets about the rest.

 

Confidence will get you far in this game.

 

 

I agree with you though but it's a huge numbers game in that regard

 

 

You have to talk to a LOT of women and be extremely charming/good looking to get anywhere. I'm just being realistic here. It's a numbers game, ask any of the guys who are in the PUA world

[LostOne1]

You got all of this from her cutting your hair?

 

Ease it up man. You're setting yourself up for disappointment if you go in with this thinking.

 

People are never as good as you picture them in your head. The more you get to know someone, the more you either look past and accept, or the more you realize they are not for you.

 

That's not to scare you off. You should approach this girl, very much so -- but putting her on a pedestal is what's giving you the fear to approach, and making her seem perfect in your mind will always lead to disappointment. No one is ever perfect.

 

Just look at her as a cool chick that you would like to get to know a little better and take it from there.

Best advice ever!

 

I did this and failed badly!

 

I liked this one girl in my class and I put her HIGH on a pedestal in my mind.. It was so bad, that I couldn't even talk to her.

 

I feel that put her off because I just couldn't talk to her properly.

 

But I do know how the thread poster feels. It's intimidating sometimes to see a hot girl or have one near you or talking to you.

 

But I learned is just to be yourself. And if she likes you at least it will be for the real you.

[MrCastle]

It doesn't matter how awesome you are though because in many cases, your approach with her just kind of blends in with the other 50,000,000 guys hitting on her during that day/week/month. It's like a big blur[/Quote]

 

First of all, women only get approached by that many guys online. When it's you and her face to face, it's you and her. If you're good enough, you will be considered. You have to realize, the majority of the guys that approach them, they don't want. All you have to do is possess the attractive qualities that individual woman is looking for and doesn't matter if she really does get 50 million approaches in a month -- she'll only want you.

 

Regardless, this is a defeatist attitude to have. Well so many other guys are trying so why should I try? How else do you expect to get the babe if you don't try?

 

 

I agree with you though but it's a huge numbers game in that regard

 

 

You have to talk to a LOT of women and be extremely charming/good looking to get anywhere. I'm just being realistic here. It's a numbers game, ask any of the guys who are in the PUA world

 

I'm very familiar with the pua world. The problem with their logic is they approach 50 different women a week on the street, in the hopes of getting their numbers and setting up dates. I would say 35-40 of those 50 say no, the other 10 give you the number, and from those 10 you have to know what their dating situation is like, if they're single and looking, not looking, have a boyfriend and didn't know how to tell you, etc. It's a low success technique.

 

Or, you could spend that time getting to know individual women at school, work, through friends, etc. Build a rapport, and greatly increase your chances of getting a date.

[BabyBash]

First of all, women only get approached by that many guys online. When it's you and her face to face, it's you and her. If you're good enough, you will be considered. You have to realize, the majority of the guys that approach them, they don't want. All you have to do is possess the attractive qualities that individual woman is looking for and doesn't matter if she really does get 50 million approaches in a month -- she'll only want you.

 

Most good looking women have a huge number of alpha and good looking guys interested in them all the time

 

You're being delusional if you believe otherwise

 

Regardless, this is a defeatist attitude to have. Well so many other guys are trying so why should I try? How else do you expect to get the babe if you don't try?

 

You're interpreting this as defeatist attitude and that's not what I'm saying at all

 

I'm promoting a realistic attitude about this. You have to do everything right and talk to a huge number of women to get anywhere. I don't know how that's a defeatist attitude

 

To me if you're not being realistic, you're going to approach 10 women, do a great job with all 10 of them and get rejected by all 10 and then think you're doing something terribly wrong...when in reality it's just part of the game

 

 

Or, you could spend that time getting to know individual women at school, work, through friends, etc.

 

None of these are an option for guys out of college in male dominated environments (like myself)

[lakerman34]

I can smell high maintenance from quite a distance away (just tell by her mannerisms and how she dresses in most cases) and I can smell stupid after 30 seconds of talking to somebody...both are huge turnoffs

 

 

As far as the rest of your post goes. I'm not putting her on a pedestal...She is quite lovely but at the end of the day, my odds of making this happen are probably very small (I'm sure she gets hit on 50,000,000 times a day) so I'm okay with that

 

Dude, honestly, naming this thread "most beautiful girl I've ever seen" is setting yourself UP to putting this girl on a pedestal.

 

Remember, in the service industry, their job is to be nice to you. She may just be very good at her job.

 

Still, talk to her, be a little risque, IME it's OK to talk a LITTLE bit sexually to your hairstylist.

 

See the hairstyle appointments as mini-dates. Ask her about movies, music, that sort of thing. Then, after a few haircuts, I'd ask her to coffee. If she says no, you can play the cute card and say "you know I'm going to ask you every time I come and get my hair cut." She can either get freaked out and insist on never cutting your hair again, or she'll think you're cute for it.

 

Still, I think you're setting her up to be put on a pedestal. Looking back on my dating history, ALL the girls I've had the pleasure of calling 'my girlfriend' started with me thinking along the lines of "psh, yeah, I can get that girl. She's cool, I'll see if she wants to chill."

 

The girls that I was thinking "OMG she's so perfect for me, she's absolutely beautiful, I NEED to get her number" ended up being sometimes dates, but always either a huge disappointment or rejection for me putting the pussy on a pedestal that I didn't even realize was there.

 

One of my best friends who can go to a club, point at ANY girl he wants, and leave with her (and is currently dating a model for about a year now) always tells me this when I think I've found the most beautiful girl in the world:

"[lakerman34], take that pussy off of that pedestal, and put it on the dining room table where it belongs."

[BabyBash]

Dude, honestly, naming this thread "most beautiful girl I've ever seen" is setting yourself UP to putting this girl on a pedestal.

 

That's actually not an exaggeration though. She is the most beautiful girl I've ever seen

 

Dude she looks like a cross between a victoria secret model face with a pornstar/fitness chick body. It's utterly spectacular.

 

 

Remember, in the service industry, their job is to be nice to you. She may just be very good at her job.

 

In regards to what? I never said she was all over me or anything

 

 

See the hairstyle appointments as mini-dates. Ask her about movies, music, that sort of thing. Then, after a few haircuts, I'd ask her to coffee. If she says no, you can play the cute card and say "you know I'm going to ask you every time I come and get my hair cut." She can either get freaked out and insist on never cutting your hair again, or she'll think you're cute for it.

 

I agree with the first part but if I get rejected, I'm definitely going to have to find a new salon/hair stylist. The awkwardness would be unbearable

 

 

One of my best friends who can go to a club, point at ANY girl he wants, and leave with her (and is currently dating a model for about a year now) always tells me this when I think I've found the most beautiful girl in the world:"[lakerman34], take that pussy off of that pedestal, and put it on the dining room table where it belongs."

 

I'm really not putting the pussy on the pedestal...

[MrCastle]

Most good looking women have a huge number of alpha and good looking guys interested in them all the time

 

You're being delusional if you believe otherwise[/Quote]

 

I'm not being delusional. I'm speaking from experience. I'm alpha, fine, but by no means am I some super ripped, tall, studly specimen of a man. I have a cute face and an average body and that has been enough to get me some incredible women both physically and personality wise. I display confidence and show them I got balls and that's enough to get me in.

 

You're interpreting this as defeatist attitude and that's not what I'm saying at all

 

I'm promoting a realistic attitude about this. You have to do everything right and talk to a huge number of women to get anywhere. I don't know how that's a defeatist attitude[/Quote]

 

Because you seem to be saying that since it requires approaching a huge amount of women to get anywhere, you're deciding not to partake, because, what's the point really? That's the vibe I'm getting, and if that's the case, you're taking yourself out of the race before they get a chance to eliminate you. I forgot where I heard this/read it, but someone once said "don't reject yourself, let other people do that." And it's true. Let the women determine whether or not they like you. Don't automatically assume it's a futile exercise and give up.

 

To me if you're not being realistic, you're going to approach 10 women, do a great job with all 10 of them and get rejected by all 10 and then think you're doing something terribly wrong...when in reality it's just part of the game[/Quote]

 

I've taken my lumps in dating, believe me. I know failure and I know success. I'm telling you what works for me and for the bulk of men. Creating social circles, getting to know women as individuals, gaining rapport.

 

 

None of these are an option for guys out of college in male dominated environments (like myself)

 

It's up to you to change your environment then. Join clubs, make a thread asking the women on here where they typically spend their free time or where they typically see a lot of women spending free time and go from there. Don't accept anything in life that you don't like. If you don't like where your dating life is, only you can change it.

[BabyBash]

Because you seem to be saying that since it requires approaching a huge amount of women to get anywhere, you're deciding not to partake, because, what's the point really? That's the vibe I'm getting, and if that's the case, you're taking yourself out of the race before they get a chance to eliminate you. I forgot where I heard this/read it, but someone once said "don't reject yourself, let other people do that." And it's true. Let the women determine whether or not they like you. Don't automatically assume it's a futile exercise and give up.

 

 

...where did I say any of this?

 

 

 

I've taken my lumps in dating, believe me. I know failure and I know success. I'm telling you what works for me and for the bulk of men. Creating social circles, getting to know women as individuals, gaining rapport.

 

You can get to know women in a cold approach too. You can make somebody feel extremely comfortable and like they've known you forever in a 20-40 minute conversation

 

 

It's up to you to change your environment then. Join clubs, make a thread asking the women on here where they typically spend their free time or where they typically see a lot of women spending free time and go from there. Don't accept anything in life that you don't like. If you don't like where your dating life is, only you can change it.

 

I see women everywhere I go to be honest with you - bars, parties, restaurants, stores, in this case the hair salon, etc...

 

Just a question now of putting in the work and approaching a huge number of women to find one who likes me. All this stuff is so easy in theory but in real life, it's a totally different ballgame. The hard part of dating isn't even knowing what to do or having quality traits, it's just putting yourself out there constantly

[MrCastle]

...where did I say any of this?[/Quote]

 

Just seems like what you've posted so far, that you're giving yourself reasons not to approach as opposed to reasons for an approach.

 

You can get to know women in a cold approach too. You can make somebody feel extremely comfortable and like they've known you forever in a 20-40 minute conversation[/Quote]

 

Yeah and then you get a text when you get home "sorry I didn't mention it before but I kind of have a boyfriend. Nice meeting you though"

 

Rapport is not the issue. Getting actual dates/sex/relationships from someone you met on the street happens very rarely. The bulk of people meet their partners through social circles.

 

The hard part of dating isn't even knowing what to do or having quality traits, it's just putting yourself out there constantly

 

To me the hard part is finding a woman actually worth my time. I still have yet to find one. But I have not given up.

[BabyBash]

Just seems like what you've posted so far, that you're giving yourself reasons not to approach as opposed to reasons for an approach.

 

You're reading things that are not really there

 

What I said is that I'm not sweating this or putting the pussy on the pedestal cause I realize my odds of success are not particularly good, doesn't mean i'm not gonna try though

 

Yeah and then you get a text when you get home "sorry I didn't mention it before but I kind of have a boyfriend. Nice meeting you though"

 

You realize you can ask the girl "are you single" when you meet her right?

 

Rapport is not the issue. Getting actual dates/sex/relationships from someone you met on the street happens very rarely. The bulk of people meet their partners through social circles.

 

The overwhelming majority of guys couldn't do a good approach if their life depended on it. I know guys who date via cold approach - hell I went out with a girl who I talked to a GNC store for a month or so

 

It's just a big numbers game, that's the thing but it is very possible

 

Dating through your social circle has it's own pitfalls too. I was seeing the sister of my friend's girlfriends - we broke it off and then it was awkward as hell seeing her around again

 

I would rather just break it off with a random so I don't have to see her in my social circle if it doesn't work out

 

In the end, I'm taking every opportunity I can. I don't have many easy choices so that's why I'm attempting to do the cold approach route. I don't know how well it's going to work - if I see any easier opportunities come up, I will obviously take them as well

[truth_seeker]

Couple of things...

 

Hairstylists tend to be crazy. I was involved with one and can tell you they love the drama and gossip.

 

If this girl is that hot, no doubt she either has a boyfriend or some fwb's... I like Lakerman's idea: go in and chat her up. Find out from her if she has a boyfriend. If she doesn't, then it's up to you to see if she has interest in you.

[Pyro]

So … stop arguing with everybody and tell us … what does she look like? Did you feel like she responded to your good looks? Did you get a chance to talk to her about yourself at all; your interests, job, accomplishments, etc.?

 

Good post. Those are some good starting points.

 

What do you do for a living OP?

[lindsay1990]

I've been going to this salon for a while now for getting my hair cut and today there was a new girl cutting my hair and I swear she is the most gorgeous and sexy girl I've ever seen. Anyways, I'm usually not terribly shallow - I see tons of girls everyday I would gladly date but I am still mesmerized by this girl. On top of being so beautiful, she seemed smart (works with computers on the side for fun), not overly high maintenance and she gave me a near perfect haircut!

 

My thought is that this is adorable, and I mean that sincerely - not in a condescending way. Made me smile haha