Luna33 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Hi, everyone! I really need some advices about this, since I'm feeling very confused and kinda hurt: I met this guy a few years ago and there had always been attraction between us, but it was four months ago that we started dating... okay, it's difficult to describe this "dating" because we're like friends with benefits, we shared kisses everytime we saw each other and used to text all the time. So, we started to get involved, he even mentioned that was falling for me, loved the time we spent together and was considering to have a serious relationship with me. Recently, we had sex (it wasn't what I expected and also felt kinda weird), to make things more complicated, right after sex we talked about our feelings for each other (which made me feel more weird). Now, he's texting me every three or two days not everyday like before, it's just a short and casual chat then doesn't text back, though he's still online. I try to remain calm, not to look clingy or needy, but I'm not quiet sure what to do... I feel like he's pulling away after our emotional talk or either testing me to see how I respond because I rarely text him first (he often complained abut this). Maybe he thinks he opened up and I'm not interested? He said he's the type of person who tends to hide emotions, the same as me... or just wanted sex?... Should I text him more or let things just fizzle out? What should I say to show my feelings or just remain friendly to not make him feel uncomfortable? Too much questions, too much confusion... I'll appreciate your help, thanks in advance!
Author Luna33 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Obviously, it was posted twice by mistake... sorry! xD
Author Luna33 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 My heart is so confusing, too, right now. Don't know what to do...
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 You're just a FWB....that means not relationship material....for whatever reason. You've known him for a while now, then recently started "dating" him which was more of him testing the emotional waters and seeing if he could get you into bed...which he did, although with less suave and quite unconvincing from the sound of it...he's just playing the emotional strings, feigning "potential". If he was ever really interested it wouldn't have taken this long for him to make a move and pursue any kind of potential relationship, he's just going to be "confusing" because in reality he's not all that interested and into you, but he's not really going to want to invest when push comes to shove...but he can't just tell you that, he's got to be sensitive to your feelings and play his cards right so he doesn't look like a jerk or like he's just using you, he needs to find an excuse to back away and go backwards without causing too many waves. There are no questions or confusion...I know you want to believe there is something more or some potential there but that's what is causing you this "confusion", guys aren't going to be transparent and open/honest when they're not into you, they're pussies and have to avoid that confrontation and pull the wool over your eyes, especially since most kind of like you where you are in their lives...you serve some kind of purpose in his life. He knew the consequences of his behavior and action, now it's just time for him to do damage control. But If you've got any sense, just move on...your feelings aren't right, they're just going to mislead you with a guy who is only half-interested in you, and no...men aren't just going to tell you what they want and how they feel, why? because it's not good news.
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