sjm Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 So, my ex just got diagnosed with border-line personality disorder.. A person that idealizes and devalues, mirrors someone in order to cope with reality. I feel sympathetic yet scared at the same time. Doing some research on it I understand why he acted the way he did. But it also is terrifying knowing I was the victim of his mind game. I haven't had contact with him at all especially leading up to the weekend that was meant to be our wedding (last weekend) then I get all this info from him. It's been mentally exhausting for me, I feel as if I have an unconditional love for this man but I do not think I have the energy to keep deciphering his games.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 So, my ex just got diagnosed with border-line personality disorder.. A person that idealizes and devalues, mirrors someone in order to cope with reality. I feel sympathetic yet scared at the same time. Doing some research on it I understand why he acted the way he did. But it also is terrifying knowing I was the victim of his mind game. I haven't had contact with him at all especially leading up to the weekend that was meant to be our wedding (last weekend) then I get all this info from him. It's been mentally exhausting for me, I feel as if I have an unconditional love for this man but I do not think I have the energy to keep deciphering his games. He told you this? Not saying I dont believe it, but just seems like he is trying to relieve guilt from what he did by giving a medical reason. Either way....not your problem anymore. It became a non-issue to you when he let you go. Keep doing what you're doing.
cavalier99 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 They all have some sorta disorder until you recover!!! lol Cav 4
Author sjm Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 He told you this? Not saying I dont believe it, but just seems like he is trying to relieve guilt from what he did by giving a medical reason. Either way....not your problem anymore. It became a non-issue to you when he let you go. Keep doing what you're doing. Whats even worse is that he might actually have it, but is using it as a way to manipulate me. WHICH IS ANOTHER DAMN GAME! He is so screwed man. Why don't people come with a warning sign.
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