Jaeejaeee Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 the story is, on Friday I was having a bad day.. & my boyfriend new I was upset. We planned on hanging out that night & he said he had work at 8AM but still wanted to see me & it was HIS idea. Later on that night I called him to see when we would see each other & he was very vague. Not answering my questions so I hung up on him. I texted him right after & said why are you playing games & not answering simple questions? We continued to argue & I said you know what.. Since you have work tmrw & have plans Sunday lets just see each other on Monday. (Completely out of anger I didn't mean it) he then took it seriously & said ohkay fine then. See you monday. I got mad that he agreed.. Said I didn't mean it. Then we made up & so I asked.. Can I see you tomorrow then? He said " I don't know. Maybe a few days apart is what we need, maybe that's what this argument is telling us. Since then we have been arguing on & off & not seen each other. I understand people need space but at the same time if he needed it he shouldn't be using what I said out of anger as a scapegoat. I told him this & he said he's "teaching me a lesson" like I'm a damn child. So today he's been ignoring me since 10:30am. I was the last person to text him & tell him to please say something I'm upset. I know I should ignore him back & give him space. But I over analyze everything & can't get it off my mind. What's your guys advice on this?? I'm scared he won't text me at all I'm so sad.
cif Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 You are behaving like a child. If someone tells you they need space respect them and stop contacting. He said he needs a few days to clear his head give it to him before you completely lose him. 1
kassy Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Agree you are acting like a child. I don't know how old you are, but this is no way to behave or communicate with your boyfriend. You should take the few days and looks at your actions and reflect on your part in the situation. Look at how to communicate effectively and not throw tantrums. If I was your boyfriend I break up with you for this behaviour
joeLove Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 This is really part of getting to know someone. Know their limits (and yours), know how to act if they(and you) are in a certain mood, ... etc. We are all different and process information and situations differently. No need to panic and act needy. Give him his space, find something to occupy your mind and make sure you and him have a good conversation once this time is over. You will need plenty of these ... Good luck
todreaminblue Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 others are getting a little tough when you are asking what to do so i wont take that route...... you do need to respect he asked for space.....having respect for a partner is really important...and some times we cant always have it the way we want it...takes compromise and a bit fo give and take.....take some time calm down....everyone chucks tantrums in their life.......if they say they have never done this, they are lying......smilin......if he is a good boyfriend he will forgive you snapping(that is what a tantrum is a snap, which i just had one myself with a very annoying friend of mine, that i have to apologise for he is licking his wounds at the moment adn sulking so ill leave him for a bit ) ....but to be a good girlfriend give him the space he needs and dont worry ........spend some time with your friends or family read that book you have had for eons and pamper yourself .......go for a long solitary walk to a beach or a park and breathe the fresh air...this always calms me down...little things and simple pleasures make that your mantra.....best wishes...hugs......deb
ExpatInItaly Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 the story is, on Friday I was having a bad day.. & my boyfriend new I was upset. We planned on hanging out that night & he said he had work at 8AM but still wanted to see me & it was HIS idea. Later on that night I called him to see when we would see each other & he was very vague. Not answering my questions so I hung up on him. I texted him right after & said why are you playing games & not answering simple questions? We continued to argue & I said you know what.. Since you have work tmrw & have plans Sunday lets just see each other on Monday. (Completely out of anger I didn't mean it) he then took it seriously & said ohkay fine then. See you monday. I got mad that he agreed.. Said I didn't mean it. Then we made up & so I asked.. Can I see you tomorrow then? He said " I don't know. Maybe a few days apart is what we need, maybe that's what this argument is telling us. Since then we have been arguing on & off & not seen each other. I understand people need space but at the same time if he needed it he shouldn't be using what I said out of anger as a scapegoat. I told him this & he said he's "teaching me a lesson" like I'm a damn child. So today he's been ignoring me since 10:30am. I was the last person to text him & tell him to please say something I'm upset. I know I should ignore him back & give him space. But I over analyze everything & can't get it off my mind. What's your guys advice on this?? I'm scared he won't text me at all I'm so sad. OP, you need to back off. He's treating you like a child because you behaved like one. Being passive-aggressive and then pouting when you don't get your way is immature and toxic to a relationship. Give him some time and respect his request for space. Don't contact him right now. If you push it, he might just walk away for good.
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