jonny222 Posted November 29, 2004 Posted November 29, 2004 I have been with this girl for two months and I think shes absolutely amazing and Im crazy about her and care about her more than I can say. all of a sudden this week she has been ,well I think she has been avoiding me but am not sure everything was great the last time we saw each other and we were together the whole day long I spoke with her the next two days on the phone after that and then all of a sudden she didnt call, I finally gave in and called her on Thanksgiving and she finally called back and said her granpa had a heart attack and she has been helping out with that which is great . so we talked the next few days on the phone and today I called her three times and she wont return my call I realize the fact about her granpa but all I want is a phone call and want to see her because I miss her,am I being parynoid or do you think she is trying to give me a hint all of a sudden, because she used to call me two or three times a day and we saw each other almost everyday and now its driving me nuts because I feel like she doesnt want anything to do with me all of a sudden I just want to know if you think Im being parynoid or if she just needs to get some things taken care of first Please give some feedback thanks
JackieQ Posted November 29, 2004 Posted November 29, 2004 Don't know what's going on exactly... Having someone in the family that ill can cause a lot of disruption and may mean she just doesn't have the energy to focus on the relationship right now. But, short of having a crystal ball, I'm not sure anyone but her can say what's up. And, calling two or three times a day when she's not into it can only add to the strain. I would say that, for whatever reason, it seems she's backing off right now. How you handle that is up to you...whether you feel she's worth waiting around for/being supportive until the crisis with grandpa is past... or you feel she really is blowing you off and you need to look at your options. Personally, I'd let her know if she needed anything I'd try to help her out...then I'd back off and let her make the next move. Just my way of handlin' it though. Jackie
Author jonny222 Posted November 30, 2004 Author Posted November 30, 2004 thanks for responding well she called me back later that night she forgot her cell phone at home (which I beleive because shes done it before) we talked for about a half hour and I still think she wants to be with me but I know its hard for her because of her grandpa and she also goes to school full time and I understand that she doesnt have that much time right now ,do you think that she still wants to be with me or is she just trying to be nice I just cant beleive that she would have such a change in feelings all of a sudden should I just let her be and keep in contact with her till all this blows ove or what do you think , I think she is very well worth waiting for and just because she is busy right now doesnt change my feelings for her
Colleen Posted November 30, 2004 Posted November 30, 2004 My boyfriend grandfather was in the hospital from heart attack recently. While his grandfather was in there I was the one who ended up calling him most of the time. You have to remember that you are a new addition in her life, so you may not be her number one priority. Her grandpa is at the moment, that doesn't mean she doesn't care about you or is trying to give you "hints". I would say just back off a bit, but be there for her if she needs you give her a couple of weeks, see if she returns to her old self.
Proto Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 I agree. Dude, you need to be there for her and symathise with her situation. Her grandfather aint so hot right now so she's going through a tough time. Calling her numerous times a day and getting all paranoid about her not wanting to be with you is EXACTLY what will cause her to dump you. You need to do what was suggested: -Tell her that you care about her and that you'll always be there for her -Let her know that her grandfather is the #1 thing on your mind and that you hope he gets better -And then let her know that if she needs someone to talk to she needs to call you ANYTIME, 24/7. A good man sticks by his woman through thick and thin, and she needs you right now. Call her maybe once or twice a week instead of 3 times a day and let her slowly come back to you. I feel that she probably will as a reward for not stressing her out and smothering her. However if by chance she doesn't, then move on if she doesn't call back.
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