yukikaze203 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 (edited) I got dumped by my ex over the summer and I went instant NC for a month (August) until I came back. I started hanging out with her again in September and we became good friends, even though I still have feelings for her. She says she doesn't have any feelings for me, but sometimes her actions speaks otherwise. Just yesterday she went to a party and I said I will pick her up after because she lives quite far away. She told me the party won't last till late at night. So she goes to the party and I wait till 11:30PM and I still don't get any text from her so I message her asking how much longer she is planning to stay there. I wait an hour and I still hear nothing, so I decide to text a friend of hers whom I know as well (friend is a guy if it makes a difference) if they're still at the party and when I should go pick her up. A minute later she calls me furious that I texted her friend asking when I should come. She says not to treat her like I'm still her bf and that she's having fun so why can't I wait till she lets me know when to pick her up. She says she'll never see me again and hangs up on me after. I write an apology text message saying that I'm sorry I texted her friend, but I said that she should've said something to let me know if she wanted to stay longer because it's getting late. She hasn't responded to me since and deleted me off FB (unfortunately, I checked this morning). Was what I did last night really that wrong? I'm so confused... Edited September 30, 2013 by yukikaze203 grammar
silentdove Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Sounds to me she was using you for a ride 1
lindsay1990 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Rude. Ungrateful. Freeloading. B*tch. Drop immediately. 2
Author yukikaze203 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 (edited) Not that this should be an excuse for her or anything, but she sounded like she drank a lot on the phone so I'm not sure if that played a role. Her emotions fluctuate easily when she drinks. Was it actually wrong of me to text that friend of hers though? Should I have called her instead or something? Edited September 30, 2013 by yukikaze203 added question
Salvatore85 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Dude, grow a pair. She's got you waiting around like a chump while she gets drunk and talks to other guys. I mean seriously, what the hell are you doing? I'm assuming you're very young and there's plenty of beautiful females around who won't do this awful crap to you, go find them. 3
HorseLuck Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I think you were being a very responsible friend and looking out for her safety. So no, I don't think you were stepping over any boundaries. I would think the next day if she came to her senses she would apologize, since you did. She's being a brat. Don't feed into that nonsense. Let her get her rides from somebody else in the future. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
todreaminblue Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 i think it was really quite rude of her to expect a lift off you honestly.......nto including the text she didnt answer.......i understand why you would text the friend......she was extremely ungrateful and rude and they are nasty traits to have....go no contact and i wish you happiness in the future with someone who appreciates you..deb
lauri Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Be happy she's gone. If I was you I wouldn't message her again. If you see her, act like you don't care and ignore her. She doesn't deserve your attention or friendship. Focus your energy and time on a girl who will appreciate you.
Nancy87 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Let her come back to senses! n STOP worrying abt it. It wasn't ur mistake at all! go NC!
Author yukikaze203 Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Dude, grow a pair. She's got you waiting around like a chump while she gets drunk and talks to other guys. I mean seriously, what the hell are you doing? I'm assuming you're very young and there's plenty of beautiful females around who won't do this awful crap to you, go find them. As much as I agree with you and everyone else on this thread, it's a bit hard to swallow down the fact that she's a no go because she's my first gf, for 3 years, and yada yada (I'm sure u've heard it all) lol. I would like to clear up a misconception though, the party was more of a business party as she wants to work at that company in the future and was hoping to get some connections. Oh, and I wouldn't consider myself very young since I'm graduating from university soon, but that's probably still young relatively speaking To be honest though, the part of me that cares about her inside me died a little after last night. How does one get into sh*t for caring?? lol
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