Genie1 Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I got asked out by a guy who I've liked for a few months back in February this year. I was told by all my friends before he asked me on a date that he liked me, and they were all trying to set us up. I didn't really believe all of that because in my opinion, if a guy likes a girl - they are usually pretty confident right? I agreed to the date and was looking forward to it. On the morning of the date he sent me a text message apologising that he would have to postpone the date because something had come up at work which could not be avoided. I totally understood and said it was cool. ..... Well, he never did re arrange it. We still saw each other out in groups and I had no hard feelings, and just shrugged it off as "hey I guess he doesn't like me afterall", and I was cool with it. It's not a crime to not like someone! .... 7 long months down the line, we meet up (we have seen/chatted/text) regularly between the cancelled date and last night lots but because I am a laid back person, we just get on like good friends and once or twice it has hit me thinking it was a shame we didn't go out on a date because we get on so well it would have been nice to see how we clicked alone. So last night we were out in this bar and we get chatting alone, we both had a few drinks and he was acting really nervous. Almost to the point of shaking. His forehead and sweaty and we were talking and he told me the drink gave him confidence to chat to me alone. He then started blurting out things I was shocked! He told me he has been kicking himself since cancelling our date, he bottled it and felt like he couldn't do it because he was scared. He said he gets petrified of his feelings and doesn't show any emotion. I told him to relax and he could talk to me about anything. He told me he doesn't look me in the eye when we see each other and he ignores me because he gets very embarrased and blushes every time he sees me. I told him this looks to me as if he's being rude! He swore that he's not rude, it's just he is scared of his feelings and I could "have anyone I want", so why would I want him etc?? I don't like people putting themselves down because I find confidence attractive and told him that. But then he started getting tears in his eyes and got upset in front of me!!! Told me I am beautiful, and I am very much out of his league. He told me I am stunning and precious and that's why he doesn't get near me. I said he was being silly and I DO like him, lots. I just think we should hang out, and see what comes of it. He then told me he is really angry at himself because he got tearful in front of me. And he hates himself every day anyway. (this behaviour is off putting for me anyway!) but I gave him the chance to explain. He then leant forward and kissed me and it was the nicest kiss I've ever had. I felt a huge spark and I held him in my arms and he was shaking!! Nerves?? I don't know :-( He text me the morning after saying he couldn't apologise enough for his behaviour the night before and he feels like an idiot and wants to hide from the world. I said again he was being silly and I loved our chat the night before. He then text and said he's going to bed because he feels low. I've text him since and had a 1 world reply. To be honest guys, I feel totally kicked in the stomach. I like this guy, I'm not saying it's the love of my life or anything, but I wanna see if things materialise into something. But he is pushing me away because he is putting himself down and is scared to open up. Shall I leave it a few days and if I've heard nothing, text hi again and spill my heard out saying I like him and want the chance to go out?? Any advice people please I really feel kicked and a bit hurt.
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