MissNoname Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 So I dated him for over a year. We broke up once. He came back pursuing me hard. We got back together. I found out about two weeks ago while he was dating me he was already involved with someone. We agreed to date exclusively so he was cheating on his gf and I. He lied to me about being single and lied to me that I was the only one. I broke up with him saying its over and to not call or text me. After two weeks of NC, he sent a text saying hi. I did not respond to it. Im over him now but I still have some questions I want to ask him. Just wondering, why a guy who has a gf who lied and cheated would initiate contact to someone he lied to and cheated on like nothing has happened? He knew I know about the other girl. Oh and I never said anything to the other girl that her bf was a cheater.
NoMoreJerks Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 (edited) why a guy who has a gf who lied and cheated would initiate contact to someone he lied to and cheated on like nothing has happened?Because he can? And he thinks he can get away with it and get "rewarded" with a response? Stick to NC. What more can you possibly find out ? Isn't the fact that he cheated enough? YOu have y our closure. No need to stir the hornet's nest and give this guy an undeserved ego stroke. He could also be worried you'd out him to his other gf and that instead of having 2 women (as in the past), he 'd end up with NONE. but honestly, i wouldn't even get involved in that drama, though i also wouldn't give him any reassurances that you won't say anything to his gf. Edited September 29, 2013 by NoMoreJerks
Stealth3 Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Who broke up with who the first time? If you dumped him, he probably wanted to have a parachute to land on. Multiple gf's = breakup won't hurt because you just go to your secondary gf once the main one dumps you. Or he found a gf in the meantime while you broke up and just didn't want to let go. Not a very honest guy. I know guys with multiple gf's, some of them do that. I know somebody with 3 gf's, all in different cities close by.
Author MissNoname Posted September 29, 2013 Author Posted September 29, 2013 (edited) Who broke up with who the first time? If you dumped him, he probably wanted to have a parachute to land on. Multiple gf's = breakup won't hurt because you just go to your secondary gf once the main one dumps you. Or he found a gf in the meantime while you broke up and just didn't want to let go. Not a very honest guy. I know guys with multiple gf's, some of them do that. I know somebody with 3 gf's, all in different cities close by. Both times I was the one who broke up with him. After I broke up with him the first time, he pursued me hard. He didnt stop pursuing me for six months. Six months later, we got back together. He didnt meet the girl when we were off. Theyve been together long, longer than us. When I met him, he was already involved with her but I didnt know that until recently. Edited September 29, 2013 by MissNoname Edit
TaraMaiden Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Nope. Keep the guy well away from yourself. Don't fall for the old 'curiosity' factor. You'll never get the answers you want. He's a born liar. That's answer enough, isn't it? Truth has no place in his life, why would he be honest with you now? 1
melell Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Listen to Tara. Anything that he tells you will always be clouded by the chance that it could just be another lie. See him for what he is, don't indulge questioning at all. There is no winning.
Zahara Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Just wondering, why a guy who has a gf who lied and cheated would initiate contact to someone he lied to and cheated on like nothing has happened? He knew I know about the other girl. Oh and I never said anything to the other girl that her bf was a cheater. He had no conscience cheating on two women so why would he give a crap except to see if his options are available? That's the only reason they come sniffing around. He's a liar. A cheat. You think he would answer your questions honestly? Stay NC.
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