Bashful13 Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 So my best friend J and I have been friends for about 7 or more years within the past 2 years we became extremely close we would text from morning to night & walk around the park almost daily just talking about our lifes he told me everything and I told him everything . He would make little comments about girls but I never said anything but when I would make comments about guys he would say "oh yeah cuter then me" . He would text me "Goodmorning beautiful" "Hey sexy" and sometimes even call me "babe" but when I would text back "babe?" he would say sorry it was for someone else .He would also tell me whoever marrys me is a lucky guy. Well one night in 2012 we went to the beach & he happened to ask me if I mind if he kissed me I said "no I don't" so we kissed mouth to mouth after that night we continued to hangout kissed one more time then became distant a month later. Well 2 weeks ago he text me saying that he misses me and the old times & I text back "I do too how could we bring back the old times" he said "let's hangout on this day" so we did we walked around the park and ended up kissing multiple times that day which was last week . We have not spoke to each other since then . Does it sound like he may have feelings ? I do have feelings for him but don't know how to express them and should I text him since we haven't spoken ?
coolheadal Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 (edited) Why don't you call him up on the cell phone and hear his voice talk to you instead of the text talk? It seems to me he's only hooking up with you on casual times and nothing real serious about it. You two just kissing nothing else going on. What does he say to you after the kissing? Does he take you out to dinner like a real date. Seems just to get in touch with just to kiss you. So his intent isn't as strong as yours. You really need to pull in your gut and take a deep breath and stand up to him and see what's his intent towards you? You really don't know? Your intent that you really like him now, but when you first started your post he sounded like he wasn't really interested in you like you are now but only as a friend (friend zone). When you had gone to the beach, and running into him there. He had noticed something different in you or other than what he thought of you he had like? Could be what you where wearing at the beach? But in any case his first impulse was to kiss you! I say find out, if he's seeing anyone first? Because before you ask him how he feels about you? You do need some closure on that. Don't want to get embarrassed. Second to me this guy friend just needs only one thing from you a kiss that leads to second and third etc kisses. But you want more than just kisses. Ask and come back here and inform us what you find out about his intentions with you and him? Edited September 29, 2013 by coolheadal
Author Bashful13 Posted September 29, 2013 Author Posted September 29, 2013 Okay , thanks for your advice . I will call him up and see what he has to say . He has taken me out to dinner multiple times . We hangout like best friends do . The day of the beach he actually picked me up and we didn't know what to do so it was my idea to go to the beach I had no idea it would lead to kissing cause we were just friends and I had no feelings for him at the time .*
coolheadal Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Oh! Friend zone friends with some extras like kissing and hanging out as friends do but nothing serious you say. But now you have feelings for him, but what type of feelings does he have for you? That's what you need to investigate before you go anywhere near the intent feelings you have right now. Because if you don't then your friendship might be at risk if you get hurt by his answer? Be clever as you might not get the answer you had wanted. He might withdrawal and not share how he feels? If he does this then you going to have to take small steps to get the answer out. Don't rush it, but take is slow! Report back to us here what you find out? I wish you the best! 1
headinthecloud Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 He wants more than a friendship. BFFs don't kiss multiple times and they don't text "good morning beautiful". If you want a relationship with him then tell him, but he clearly has feelings for you and you cannot be close friends. Whatever you do, be fair to him. Don't lead him on. Good luck!
d0nnivain Posted November 1, 2013 Posted November 1, 2013 When you say you had no feelings for him at the time, does that mean that your feelings changed? At this point, you may want to consider asking him on a date. He may be shy / nervous / afraid of rejection & messing up your friendship. If you do like him, make that clear to him.
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