MrTurk Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I am wondering if when I meet women in person for a drink or lunch or whatever....that I probably come across flat. They probably feel like they are at lunch with their brother. Since I am preoccupied with learning who she is as a person, I do nothing to show any flirtatious interest, or sexual vibe. Do guys purposely try to fit that in, making sure they get that point across, that they are attracted to her? I have no clue on how to project that "vibe" to a woman. I've never had to in the past, but I am thinking it might be an issue with the women around my age(42)
gaius Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Of course you try to fit it in. You also shouldn't care so much about learning about her, that's now what turns women on. They have gay friends for that. Figure out interesting things to talk about. Not necessarily what's based in her profile either. Have a bunch of topics and thoughts though up before you go just in case you hit dead zones. Take charge and move the conversation along if something isn't working. Until you hit gold. Try to plan your dates so you have a way to touch her casually in the second half, when she's more comfortable with you. Reaching across a dinner or coffee table is awkward and more difficult to pull off. An occasional compliment is nice if it's genuine and said confidently. And last but not least, lot of eye contact! But leer occasionally too. Don't be uber polite. She want's to know you want her.
hppr Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I am wondering if when I meet women in person for a drink or lunch or whatever....that I probably come across flat. They probably feel like they are at lunch with their brother. Since I am preoccupied with learning who she is as a person, I do nothing to show any flirtatious interest, or sexual vibe. Do guys purposely try to fit that in, making sure they get that point across, that they are attracted to her? I have no clue on how to project that "vibe" to a woman. I've never had to in the past, but I am thinking it might be an issue with the women around my age(42) Lunch or dinner dates are a waste unless you have deep pockets and like the "wine bar" scene. Figure out what you like to do for fun, it really doesn't matter, and then take them along. No pressure just get to know one another.
Author MrTurk Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 Lunch or dinner dates are a waste unless you have deep pockets and like the "wine bar" scene. Figure out what you like to do for fun, it really doesn't matter, and then take them along. No pressure just get to know one another. Everyone says to go do something. But most women refuse. They want an easy escape if they dont feel that vibe. I've tried to offer suggestions rather than sitting somewhere interviewing each other but women I've met just wont give in. I know doing something is better, you know doing something is better....but they refuse to see it that way.
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