lillybear1 Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Okay, so this guy and I have been going on dates for the last month and a half or so. We are both in our 20s. We have been moving pretty slow. He likes me and I know that. He told me. However, we hadn't really gotten through the platonic line. We'd talk everyday and when we hung out, it was always really fun, BUT he hadn't really done much like hold my hand or anything. I was beginning to wonder how long it was going to take, but I wanted him to take his time, so I just waited. He was really sweet and I was confident that he was into me, so I was okay with it. Anyway, he decided to jump over the platonic line to nights ago. We went to a concert and I was slightly intoxicated. He and I split a huge drink, so I became more intoxicated. He was sober because he was driving. He had drank a little but it wore off. Anyway, from the second I got there he was being touchy. He put his hand on the small of my back when we went somewhere. He held my hand the next time we went somewhere. and he put his arm around my waist and held me close for the entirety of the concert. This was all new. haha. So, I was happy. Anyway, towards the end he grabbed my hand and pulled me up the hill away from my friends and kissed me. Yay, right? Not really. I wasn't sober, so I don't remember a lot of the little details. But I'm pretty sure I pulled away quickly because it surprised me. I know I gave him a hug and asked for a redo, but it was still kinda not wonderful I don't think. Our lips were both really dry and it just surprised me so badly. It was also like 100% approach on his part. He didn't give me a chance to do the 90%/10% thing, which was a little awk. Plus, it's been something like 3 years since I kissed someone. Haven't really had time to date till now. So, he held my hand as we walked to the car and he went and found his friends. He texted me after we went our separate ways and said "sorry. I suck at this stuff haha." I was still intoxicated but I told him it was cool. Then he got really drunk at a bar, texted me for a bit about insignificant stuff, and then quit. So, yesterday morning, I texted him to see how he was feeling from drinking. No answer. So, last night I texted him and was basically like "Hey. I don't remember a ton from last night. I'm not sure exactly what I said about it, but I know it may have been a little awk. I just want to make sure we are cool." No text back. He's been on Facebook. Would a bad kiss be a deal breaker? Is there something I missed? Any ideas? I'm kinda upset about it. Like, I've cried a bit. I guess I really, really like the guy.
Author lillybear1 Posted September 29, 2013 Author Posted September 29, 2013 Oh, I should add that he's been on facebook via his phone because a post said "via mobile."
todreaminblue Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 (edited) the best kisses are never when you are drunk,i dont think one kiss is a deal breaker...i am hoping that kissing is like riding a bicycle because i havent kissed anyone for years......lol....as far as first kisses go they are normally a bit awkward....and to me the fact it was your first kiss and you were intoxicated or he was,doesnt bode well for a memorable time but i dont think it should ever be a deal breaker......i dont know if you went for the full make out session kiss..the redo thing kinda points to the fact you might have....maybe he is embarrassed himself feeling responsible for it not being too good......give him time see what happens..... fist kisses i feel should be like a whisper a soft promise of warmth and depth of wanting more but having a bit of self control to be brief and even repeat that brief kiss a couple of times so you get used to actually which way your foreheads go....so you dont knock each other out...smilin atcha.... to me kissing any ones lips is a sign it is beyond friends......so if you keep first kisses soft and fleeting......the next time is something that you have to look forward to....but then again havent kissed anyone for years ...maybe i should see what kind fo first kisses are trending on twitter.....nah...stuff that...lol...ill believe that its a like a bicycle thing...dont worry so much if he backs off because you had a bad first kiss...he isnt worth your time....deb ps just because he has been on facebook doesnt mean he read his messages.....actually call him and ask and dont rely on social media to relay messages.... Edited September 29, 2013 by todreaminblue
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