David_Marsh Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Shall I just leave it or push her for an answer? This is related to an earlier post of mine ..... I met a girl form online dating. During the first week we spoke a few times which included one very long 2 hour conversation. We messaged each other 3/4 times a day and exchanged quite nice messages. Both of us where making an attempt to get know each other. Asking proper questions, adding some emotion to the messages and both of us making jokes. Had a first date which lasted 3.5 hours and went well. During the second week we carried on in the same way on the phone. Had a second date and again 'went well. It lasted for 4.5 hours and we have a good laugh. However, she has been very quiet since the second date. Took her 24 hours to reply to both my texts. I called her on the 3rd night and she did not pick up. She got back to me 2 days later, apologised for not answering my call as she has been 'busy' but will try to call me later on this evening. She was going on a trip the next day so I just got a message in the middle of the night saying she's just finished her packing and it's too late to call. She then messaged me 2 days after returning from her trip asking to meet up after work. I could not so I asked her for another day she is free. She said maybe next week but we can have a catch up tonigh if i'm free later. I said ok, and I called her in the evening but she did not pick up and now it's 5 days since I've heard from her. The few messages she has sent since our second date have been very plain and not like the way we messaged each other at first. I don't know if I should just leave it or if I should contact her again asking why she is being like this?? It's bugging me because we seemed to be getting along so well. If she's not interested why can't she just call me and tell me instead of blanking me. If you're not interested in someone just politely tell them. Sending mix signals does more damage then being upfront. What shall I do?
madeintheus67 Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Forget about her. This is a very common experience I run into as well. Great conversations of span of a few days and then POOF! they disappear. Move on.
FitChick Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 On your last date did you try to kiss her? Was there any affection at all like hand holding or hugging? If not, she thinks you like her as a friend only.
Atem Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 move on message the next girl go out with her
Author David_Marsh Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 On your last date did you try to kiss her? Was there any affection at all like hand holding or hugging? If not, she thinks you like her as a friend only. I did not. The second half of the date was gong well and would have been an ideal time to or so it felt. However, we have very different personalities and I probably did not feel as comfortable at that stage. This is why it's bugging me. Of course most likely reason is she has lost interest or is multi dating as suggested but i think there's a good outside chance she backed off because i didnn't make a move. If it's the latter than it's a shame as we where getting along well.
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