Summer Lovin Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 My ex is continuing to contact me after we broke up. I had moved in with him a few months ago and recently moved out. Living with him was terrible, as we fought all of the time. I feel that I'm much better off being independent from him. I felt like I was a burden to him, and I wasn't allowed to go to certain events with him. There was no "us" it was merely "his" life and I was intruding in on. While I was living with him he said that he wanted me to leave and did not want to be in a relationship with me anymore, that he was unable to give me the commitment that I wanted. I wasn't thinking clearly merely because I felt so dependent on him, so asked him to please give it a chance and he wouldn't. I also caught him texting women inappropriate things and bringing other women to events as a date when I was living with him. We had been together for 3-years, and I was ready to move forward together and think about engagement, and clearly he wasn't. I didn't have a support network where he was either, so felt that I was too dependent on him. I have moved out of his place, and am starting over somewhere else, but he keeps contacting me all of the time. He keeps saying that we're not over, and he plans on visiting me. When I tell him that I don't want him to visit, he says that he can't believe I wouldn't let him after he let me stay at his place all of those times. Why on earth would he keep contacting me when he's the one that asked me to leave and said that we're over? I know that this is a dead-end situation, and so how do I let him know that I'm not interested in having him visit without making him angry?
Salvatore85 Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Better yet, why do you keep replying?
Author Summer Lovin Posted September 29, 2013 Author Posted September 29, 2013 I guess I feel guilty if I don't. He keeps telling me that he never said it was over. He keeps reminding me of all of the great things that he did for me while I was together, and almost makes me feel like I owe it to him to let him stay with me and to visit me, but I see no point. I don't even know why he would want to drag it out, there's no point and it's wasting time.
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