Lily21 Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I'm wondering because I have three really close friends all of them seem to have guys of usually European American descent that find them attractive and they don't have a problem finding guys that like them. I on the other hand have the same amount basically of guys who find me attractive yet they're always of another culture and race. All my friends are around 5'4" -5'8" and about 120-130 lbs and all are small to slim C cups with like perfect 25-26 waists and size 5 in juniors. I'm just as pretty as them. I've never felt ugly. But it's like body shape wise I actually used to feel ok 32B-27-39... I'm pear shaped but it seems like it only attracts guys I'm not entirely attracted to. I was just wondering like what is considered the most attractive shape banana lollipop pear or hourglass? What do you guys think on LS?
MrCastle Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Pear shaped is my favorite. I'm hispanic American not "European American," sorry to disappoint.
MalachiX Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Pear shaped is my favorite. I'm hispanic American not "European American," sorry to disappoint. Hard to say. I've learned to appreciate a variety of body types and skin tones (different colors of skin are so sexy). The only common variant is that I tend to like dark hair. At the end of the day, I find I'm most likely to feel "intimate" about someone who is short with a little bit of curves on them. Maybe it's because the first girl I ever loved looked like that (probably not though since I always think I had that preference). 1
Author Lily21 Posted September 29, 2013 Author Posted September 29, 2013 Rather interesting to see how girls worry about these numbers so much. The truth is guys often don't know what your measurements are or what your weight is [you girls freak out after comparing yourself to your friends or others/models etc.]. For us it is about if you look healthy and how you look on the outside rather [and later, naked]. So I wouldn't worry about inches and this and that. Your shape question is a valid one though. I'd say some form of hourglass [doesn't have to be a coca cola perfect] is more ideal than the alternatives you suggested. But that is not a disqualifier by any means - for a wonderfully sweet girl you get along with [not a BS line - I've observed that in myself]. So I'd say attitude [sweetness, courtesy /manners/kindness, fun&light personality, flirtive/playful side, etc] really goes a long way. It really does. So I'd say that might be the difference between you and your friends. My friends are hourglass figures for the most part 34.5-25-36, 37-26-36, and 35-26-35. I'm pear shaped 34-27-39. I do still get guys attracted to me. It's just a different kind I'm welsh/Sioux/Portuguese heritage. My friends are Jewish Swedish and Italian/Irish heritages. They do fine attracting guys similar to them but not me. It's always black or a lot of Puerto Rican Hispanics. But it's seemed to be the wrong kind of guys. It's not the amount more the type I'm attracting that I don't get why.
emva07 Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 My friends are hourglass figures for the most part 34.5-25-36, 37-26-36, and 35-26-35. I'm pear shaped 34-27-39. I do still get guys attracted to me. It's just a different kind I'm welsh/Sioux/Portuguese heritage. My friends are Jewish Swedish and Italian/Irish heritages. They do fine attracting guys similar to them but not me. It's always black or a lot of Puerto Rican Hispanics. But it's seemed to be the wrong kind of guys. It's not the amount more the type I'm attracting that I don't get why. I feel you, I am pear shaped and I hate it. Never noticed what kind of guys it attracts until I read your post....interesting....I have the same experience. NOW I finally understand why white guys are scared of me. haha. Pears are too hot to handle. 2
Keenly Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I like super skinny, I like slightly (very slightly) overweight. It really depends on your skin (subconsciously attracted to pale, fair, healthy skin) and how you carry it.
coolheadal Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 The New GF is barbie doll body I am happy! 1
c57dood Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I like curvy and voluptuous women with black or brown hair, brown eyes and brown or fair skin. 1
MalachiX Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I like big butts and I can not lie You other brothers can't deny That when a girl walks in with an itty bitty waist And a round thing in your face You get sprung, wanna pull out your tough 'Cause you notice that butt was stuffed 3
giblesp Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Most attractive shape for me is that of the woman I love. 2
PlumPrincess Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I always thought guys would place more importance on race and ethnicity than on body shape. And from your description of yourself it sounds as if you do look more exotic than the other girls.
Joaquin Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Slim with pert bum and hanging almost droopy boobs that are oversized compared to slim frame.
StanMusial Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I'm not too picky. I don't know that your specific measurements vs those of your friends has that much to do with the ethnicity of your suitors vs theirs. It might be something else altogether. Also, what does it mean when a girl says "size 4" or something like that? How can you base a body type on one number? And how can someone be a size 0? Wouldn't that make her disappear? 1
Author Lily21 Posted September 29, 2013 Author Posted September 29, 2013 I always thought guys would place more importance on race and ethnicity than on body shape. And from your description of yourself it sounds as if you do look more exotic than the other girls. I don't actually my friend who's of Sephardic Jewish heritage is as dark as I am. And my other friend isn't much lighter because she's part italian. Only one of my friends is really fair because she's Swedish. All three of them do fine with guyswho aren't of color but I get ignored almost like a repellant or something. Maybe it is some nonverbal cues I just don't know it idk. I'm half welsh which is why I look to be mostly European heritage added to the fact that my mom is half Portuguese which also European heritage.
Author Lily21 Posted September 29, 2013 Author Posted September 29, 2013 I'm not too picky. I don't know that your specific measurements vs those of your friends has that much to do with the ethnicity of your suitors vs theirs. It might be something else altogether. Also, what does it mean when a girl says "size 4" or something like that? How can you base a body type on one number? And how can someone be a size 0? Wouldn't that make her disappear? A size 0 is unrealistic I'm 5'0" and there's still no way I could fit a 0
stillafool Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Lily are you the shortest of the 3 of you?
Author Lily21 Posted September 29, 2013 Author Posted September 29, 2013 Lily are you the shortest of the 3 of you? Yes definitely. The shortest of the four of us after me is 5'4"...
hppr Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 As a man I spent a most of my teens and early 20s very very insecure about my looks. I have a big fat head, I went bald early, bad skin since I was probably 10yrs old, and really really skinny. Like 135lbs at 5'11 when I was 20yrs. So I started working out a lot and got up to about 190, and now 180lbs, but it's still not enough to hide my big fat bald head. I tried hats, sunglasses, beard, but the solution was to just not care about it. I shave it, wax it with this shiny stuff like the black dudes use and hide it out in the open. And tons of girls tell me how great my bald head looks. My point is learn how to accentuate your best features and not care about the ones that bother you, if that makes sense. If people tell you that you have a really pretty face then experiment with different kinds of makeup, stay fit, and laugh off the comments about your big butt and you won't have any problems. 1
carhill Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I was just wondering like what is considered the most attractive shape banana lollipop pear or hourglass? What do you guys think on LS? Historically, based on my LTR's and M, pear. My exW was about your height but heavier. I don't tend to categorize women by 'shape' but can reflect historically on the ones I ended up in relationships with, so shape must've come into play at some point, though their height varied widely, from 4'11' to 5'8 and the same with weight, with my exW being the heaviest, generally a size 14 US most of our M.
MissBee Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I'm not too picky. I don't know that your specific measurements vs those of your friends has that much to do with the ethnicity of your suitors vs theirs. It might be something else altogether. Also, what does it mean when a girl says "size 4" or something like that? How can you base a body type on one number? And how can someone be a size 0? Wouldn't that make her disappear? Hilarious. My nutrition said something similar though. She basically said weight to height ratios make no sense, as well as clothing size, as everybody who has a certain height or weight or clothes number will still have very different body shape and structure and it isn't any kind of standard to hear it and know what the person body looks like.
thefooloftheyear Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Pam Grier...In her heyday.....*sigh*.....:love: TFY 1
Author Lily21 Posted September 29, 2013 Author Posted September 29, 2013 I don't just get black or Latino guys but its the type I get are the biggest problem. My ex was black and white. I have a daughter who's half French/creole. I've actually dated the type I'm talking about. It's the kind that are like the bad boy type. I just want a decent type of guy really despite race or anything. I'm ready to settle down. My exes have always treated me like crap tried to deceive me too controlling troubles with the law unfaithful you name it.
Imported Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I don't just get black or Latino guys but its the type I get are the biggest problem. My ex was black and white. I have a daughter who's half French/creole. I've actually dated the type I'm talking about. It's the kind that are like the bad boy type. I just want a decent type of guy really despite race or anything. I'm ready to settle down. My exes have always treated me like crap tried to deceive me too controlling troubles with the law unfaithful you name it. That probably has very little to do with your body type.
hppr Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I don't just get black or Latino guys but its the type I get are the biggest problem. My ex was black and white. I have a daughter who's half French/creole. I've actually dated the type I'm talking about. It's the kind that are like the bad boy type. I just want a decent type of guy really despite race or anything. I'm ready to settle down. My exes have always treated me like crap tried to deceive me too controlling troubles with the law unfaithful you name it. That has a lot to do with age, where you live, and the sorts of things you like and enjoy - not to mention the personality types of men that interest you most.
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