Prettybones Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I have only been with my guy for 2 months and we live 100 miles apart which isn't too far and we see eachother almost every weekend. Recently I have been noticing he's been commenting on other girls pictures on instagram saying "giggity" or making smiley faces and flirting. Its all innocent really and its not that I'm jealous I just feel like he knows it would hurt me. And deep down it does. I'm sure if he saw me commenting on other guys pictures about how hot they look he would be upset. I'm just worried that he is looking elsewhere and I'm becoming insecure already this soon in the relationship. Plus the fact that he is an hour and a half away makes me question why he does this. I'm not sure how to ask him about this and if it means anything or not? Or if I should just let it go, and I'm being too insecure and its innocent and all guys look? I honestly have no problem with him being attracted to another woman, its natural, but commenting on their pictures in the way he does just kinda worries me. Any advice appreciated thanks.
Keenly Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Yes, you are over reacting. 2 months. If it bothers you, bring it up, but in a way that doesn't put him on the defensive. Simply voice your concerns.
Polak Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 I'd also like to know what ages you guys are... I know it's only 2 months in, but if he was in the least bit serious about a relationship and wanted to make a long-distance one work to the best of his ability, he wouldn't be flirting with other girls, even if it's seemingly harmless picture comments. As stated above, you can simply voice your concerns. See what happens.
veggirl Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 NO, you are not overreacting. Your bf is blatantly disrespecting you by flirting with other girls and telling them they are hot. I'd be pissed. Esp this early on, his eyes should be googley only for you. This is bad news. He's either an immature attention-whore or he is putting feelers out there for other girls to see if anyone bites! 7
Els Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 "Giggity"!?!??! How old is he!??! I mean, I know Quagmire is awesome, but who the hell actually says stuff like that in reality!?!? Aside from that, I agree with veggirl and Polak. 2
Author Prettybones Posted September 30, 2013 Author Posted September 30, 2013 He's 26 I'm 28. I do think if he was serious he wouldn't be putting these comments in girls pictures. I'm not sure how to bring it up. I'm almost scared it's because he's keeping his options open. But then I might be reading too much into it
Els Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I don't really know what it means, but I do know that I'm personally not interested in being with a guy who does that. Are you?
todreaminblue Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 "Giggity"!?!??! How old is he!??! I mean, I know Quagmire is awesome, but who the hell actually says stuff like that in reality!?!? Aside from that, I agree with veggirl and Polak. who is quagmire?...deb
Els Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 who is quagmire?...deb The horny dude with a huge jaw in Family Guy. 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Completely disrespectful and inappropriate. 1
almond Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Absolutely disgusting behaviour, and incredibly disrespectful when in a relationship. You are not overreacting, you are underreacting. Your reaction should be to immediately cease all contact with this douche, and find someone that isn't a pos. 2
emva07 Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 (edited) It has only been 2 months, you two live 100 miles apart, see each other *almost* every weekend (so 6 times or less). To be honest, I don't see why he wouldn't keep his options open...this isn't a serious relationship yet. You can talk to him, but I don't think it will change much. If anything you may just get him to block his activities to you or stop doing it online but still do it in person on his end of town. Not many people can make LDR work, esp at such a young age and with such little time together (2 months). It takes very determined people to make it work, the way he is disrespecting you, he is not one of those few. Edited September 30, 2013 by emva07 2
nomadic_butterfly Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 I have only been with my guy for 2 months and we live 100 miles apart which isn't too far and we see eachother almost every weekend. Recently I have been noticing he's been commenting on other girls pictures on instagram saying "giggity" or making smiley faces and flirting. Its all innocent really and its not that I'm jealous I just feel like he knows it would hurt me. And deep down it does. I'm sure if he saw me commenting on other guys pictures about how hot they look he would be upset. I'm just worried that he is looking elsewhere and I'm becoming insecure already this soon in the relationship. Plus the fact that he is an hour and a half away makes me question why he does this. I'm not sure how to ask him about this and if it means anything or not? Or if I should just let it go, and I'm being too insecure and its innocent and all guys look? I honestly have no problem with him being attracted to another woman, its natural, but commenting on their pictures in the way he does just kinda worries me. Any advice appreciated thanks. I personally would find this kind of behavior disrespectful once a commitment has been made. It's one thing if we are together and a guy comments on a woman's beauty; I myself will comment on how beautiful another woman is while with my partner. But commenting behind my back is unacceptable especially with all the trouble people are getting themselves into with social media. Flirting is unacceptable because it gives invitations to others and when you are off the market the only signals you should be sending are friendly ones. 1
NoMoreJerks Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 "Giggity"!?!??! How old is he!??! I mean, I know Quagmire is awesome, but who the hell actually says stuff like that in reality!?!? People who are immature, and who like trolling people online and generally being douches. Seriously. I had a friend like that, who used to do that sort of stuff (say "giggity,"etc.) and he was married. He ended up cheating on his wife , and leaving her for another woman that he had brought home / introduced to his wife. 1
emva07 Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 People who are immature, and who like trolling people online and generally being douches. Seriously. I had a friend like that, who used to do that sort of stuff (say "giggity,"etc.) and he was married. He ended up cheating on his wife , and leaving her for another woman that he had brought home / introduced to his wife. yep, and that is how THAT cookie crumbles.
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