Amethystic Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 This is a question about a date, but also, I need some opinions on my approach to dating. One of the things I struggle with is striking the balance between showing too much interest, and not showing enough. Apparently I'm not great at expressing myself through body language or otherwise, because guys I date often tell me that they can't tell if I'm into in them or not. I do try to show interest by being flirtatious, giving compliments, physical contact, smiling etc, but I also like to give him space, especially in the beginning. The last thing I want is to come off as a needy, overly attached chick. But at the same time, I could probably stand to loosen up and show a little vulnerability sometimes. I just don't know when, and hence, my question: I went on a great first date with a guy on Thursday. We met up for drinks, chemistry was robust, and conversation flowed easily. He was clearly into me, and when we were done with drinks we went to another place because he "didn't want the night to end." A couple of times during the evening, he mentioned wanting to see me again, and I responded favorably, but I didn't specifically say "I want to see you again too." I guess I was playing it a little cool, because he's a good looking guy, and I'm sure he has plenty of women fawning over him. I wanted to just stare at his face, but I actively tried not to. I didn't wanna come across as creepy or desperate. I probably didn't make a lot of eye contact, although we had a few moments of intense gazing at each other here and there. We stayed out until 1am, kissed goodnight, and parted ways. Tired and tipsy, I crashed as soon as I got home. When I woke up, I saw a text from him that he'd sent shortly after I'd fallen asleep. It said that "I hope you got home ok, and I hope to see you again soon." I replied "I made it home alive, thanks for checking. I had fun :)" That was yesterday morning, and I haven't heard anything back. Does it sound like I was being too aloof? I'm really tempted to text him something like "Hope you're having a good weekend! It would be great to see you again soon," or something along those lines. Or should I just wait to see if he asks me out again?
farva2 Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 text him, guys love not always having to text first. If he's into you, he'll reciprocate the interest.
Intents Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Do not text. You need to wait on him. I am a very good looking guy (only relevant because it applies here) and I prefer to chase at the start. If he doesn't text or call, then it wouldn't have happened anyway. You were right to respond to him, but it's his move now.
Author Amethystic Posted September 28, 2013 Author Posted September 28, 2013 Yikes. Conflicting advice. Well, I did shoot him a text a little while ago, simply to satisfy myself that I've shown enough interest. I specifically said that I wanted to see him again, so the ball is in his court now.
Author Amethystic Posted September 29, 2013 Author Posted September 29, 2013 Yay, we have a second date. I'm all giddy now 2
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