made the mistake of looking at my ex girlfriends facebook. messing me up.

[organizedchaos]

Dude seriously, who the hell cares if she's seeing someone else? You're sitting around snooping on her Facebook, calling her friends, reminiscing and none of that stuff is attractive. You want to know how I got my ex back the first time? I said eff it and did whatever the hell I wanted to do. I stopped caring about what she was doing because I couldn't control it and it would just eat me alive. If you think being a whiny, pain in the ass is going to get her back then you're sadly mistaken. Live your life to the fullest, have fun and meet new people. You don't need to start dating again but female friends are awesome after a break up.

 

Please don't take this as me being a jerk but you've got to toughen up. If you really want her back than your only chance is to move on. I know it sounds counter intuitive but it's the only thing that works. The only way she'll ever be attracted to you again is if she sees you living your life, full of confidence. The moment you don't care anymore is the moment you'll find out whether she's ever going to come back? Wake up tomorrow with a new purpose my friend. Not a purpose to get her back but a purpose to improve yourself and you will start to feel better, I promise you.

 

OP listen to this advice.

[organizedchaos]

I assume you are gonna go actual NC now? Since NOT going NC blew up in your face so spectacularly...? Don't ever, ever text someone's friends like that again. It honestly makes you look desperate and crazy. The only way to regain your dignity is NC!!! i hope you didn't respond to her text.

 

God I almost did that too last week but came to my senses.

[hurts2death]

best post ever

Dude seriously, who the hell cares if she's seeing someone else? You're sitting around snooping on her Facebook, calling her friends, reminiscing and none of that stuff is attractive. You want to know how I got my ex back the first time? I said eff it and did whatever the hell I wanted to do. I stopped caring about what she was doing because I couldn't control it and it would just eat me alive. If you think being a whiny, pain in the ass is going to get her back then you're sadly mistaken. Live your life to the fullest, have fun and meet new people. You don't need to start dating again but female friends are awesome after a break up.

 

Please don't take this as me being a jerk but you've got to toughen up. If you really want her back than your only chance is to move on. I know it sounds counter intuitive but it's the only thing that works. The only way she'll ever be attracted to you again is if she sees you living your life, full of confidence. The moment you don't care anymore is the moment you'll find out whether she's ever going to come back? Wake up tomorrow with a new purpose my friend. Not a purpose to get her back but a purpose to improve yourself and you will start to feel better, I promise you.

[Jord]

i'm beating myself up again for letting my ex talk down to me. does she have the right to be this upset for me asking her friend if she's dating a new guy??

 

after our last fight, she continued to send me texts like, "you have not grown up. everytime i think of you, it reminds me of everything i don't want in a man. what i'm saying is with honesty, which you lack."

 

i can't take this. it's bringing me down, because the woman i love hates me now. i just want to stop this war with her, i want to make peace. i can't go on with her having these negative feelings towards me. what should i do?

[Eddie007]

Listen man, you know what you need to do. Youve been told several times by many different people on this board what to do.

 

I know it must hurt to think the person you love hates you. my relationship ended rather amicably so I cant say I feel your pain. I went 6+ weeks of NC since the day she dumped me until I forwarded her an email yesterday about a subject close to her heart. I got no response. Yes it stings a little but not near as bad as I thought it would.

 

Going complete NC for 6+ weeks has got me on the right path as it will with you. Im at day 1 again but not back at the beginnig.

 

Start now, change your number, do whatever you need to do to get away from her negativity.

[Jord]

i am in NC, haven't responded to her since. i just feel that i'm being kicked when i'm already down. she knows how much trouble i'm in outside of our relationship, yet she continues to bombard me with being the worst person in the world and can't do anything right.

 

i did what you did and poured my heart in to letters to her, my ex responded "i don't know what to say, give me some time to respond."

[Eddie007]

I have not poured my heart out to my ex at all. She knows how I feel and yet she still left me. I did not beg or plead. I packed my **** and left that day. I only reached out once (yesterday after 6 weeks of nothing) with an email. It wasnt an I love you, please take me back email. It was a forward on a subject I know shes interested in. All I said was "thought you might enjoy reading this". She didn't respond. Thats her right. I really didnt ask a question so in all honesty there was nothing to respond to.

 

Im glad youre not responding but since her texts are causing you so much pain you need to block her or better yet change your number.

[Jord]

i just blocked her now. it f*cking hurts like a mother, but i have to.

 

i tried to contact her like you did in the past, like i said "i heard you got in a car accident, are you okay?!" she only replied, "yes." it kinda sucks when your ex is indifferent.