boogabstell Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 :confused:My other half of 16 years decided to end our relationship almost 3 weeks ago due to lack of sex and communication. He said he felt sick to his stomach when he looked at me. I repeatedly asked him to give me another chance and he says it is too late. We are still living together and have 2 children, due to financial reasons it has to be that way for a bit. So last night he asks me to go out for drinks and something to eat. Mind you he is unable to drive right now due to legalities. Of course I said yes because I still want to be with him and am in love with him. We had a great time.....we talked (not about us), we laughed, ate, drank and were merry! On the ride home I asked him why he decided to ask me to go out...his reply was that he knew I was going stir crazy and knew I needed to get out of the house. He wanted to thank me for the great job I have been doing with the kids. We pulled in the driveway after he said this he got out of the car and went inside and straight to bed not another word to me, Ok so what is he my boss rewards me for my good behavior that was my first reaction. Then I was grateful he wanted me in his presence and I should leave it alone. Not sure what to think. However he has not spoke to me all day...wont say good morning, I ask him if I could help him in anyway with his boating trip he is going on, immediately he says No. he looks right through me, walks out of the room when I enter. Am I trying to analyze this too much like he really still does love me and maybe we have another chance or was it his excuse to get out of the house too to have a drink .
Mariposa10 Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 I'm sorry you're in such a horrible situation... It must be so hard that you still have to put up with all this cruelty. I haven't been married so I don't really know what kind of advice to give you. But just like you said, stop over analyzing every little thing. You should start treating him the way he treats you. He's lucky you haven't kicked him out.
BC1980 Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 He said he felt sick to his stomach when he looked at me. Ummm. . . . anyone that said this to me would have their bags packed and be kicked out. How can you tolerate that? Have some self-respect. Can you move out? Also: 1. He is not your other half. You are whole by yourself. Start believing that. 2. He went out for dinner and drinks with you because he can't drive. He's obviously using your for a ride.
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