Bf and I supposed to be on a break but he just logged on to my facebook.... :o

[k0rl0]

So idk whos keeping up but my bf and I had a rough time and we are on a break cuz he dont trust me right now and said lets see what I do with my time away. I was thinking that maybe he things Imma go run off to guys and if i was gonna do that then I wont even come back so im just taking time off for myself and I changed my number and deactivated my facebook and erased my instagram app. I didn't give him my new # yet but I dont think he texted cuz usually he gets into his shell. But its been 4 days w no contact and I just saw my email that my facebook reactivated and I erased my app so hes he only one w my password. He had asked for it cuz when I did talk to some friends that liked me and I flirted w them a little which I know was wrong, I gave him the passwords.

Why would he go log into my facebook after all this situation. He was real mad at me and we completely shut down all contact and planned to for a while... I know what I have to do and know it could take a while for him to trust me again, I just dont know if hell be back ayeee idk!!!

 

But why would he go log into my facebook!? Does that mean he still wants me back? What could it be!!!!???

[Ireallydontknow]

Honestly just break up already. I think breaks are detrimental to the healing process.

[k0rl0]

Wel I know that. I usualy do move on but this guy is worth it so thats why im in this forum.

[reddragon588]

But its been 4 days w no contact and I just saw my email that my facebook reactivated and I erased my app so hes he only one w my password. He had asked for it cuz when I did talk to some friends that liked me and I flirted w them a little which I know was wrong, I gave him the passwords.

 

There are many things wrong with this.

 

1. He had no right to ask for your passwords.

2. You should not have given them to him.

3. You should not have been guilted into giving them to him.

4. He should not be logging into your Facebook.

 

This is a gross violation of your privacy by him.

[Nicoleiia]

Maybe you should break NC and tell him not to log into your FB. Either that, or change your password so he can't get on. He is just being nosey.

[Simon Phoenix]

Yeah, it's time to change your password. Immediately.

[Mariposa10]

I've never understood why people do this, give their partners their password... It's just so weird to me. If your boyfriend wont' be able to trust you again, I don't see how the relationship will work in the future.

[BC1980]

I didn't even read the post, just the thread title. Do not let someone else log into your Facebook or any other accounts. That is so twisted and unhealthy.

[KatZee]

Wel I know that. I usualy do move on but this guy is worth it so thats why im in this forum.

 

What about this relationship is so "worth it?"

 

There's clearly no trust here from his end. No trust? No relationship. Do you really think giving him your passwords to allow him to snoop through your business is what goes on in healthy relationships?

 

No. It shows lack of trust, insecurity, and a need for control.

 

You sound immature too. Why would you blatantly flirt with guys who like you? Do you need attention from them? Do they validate your existence?

 

I think him logging onto your Facebook when broken up is terrible behavior. If he wants to know something, he should just flat out ask you. Not look through your property and snoop on any conversations you're having.

 

Change your password, and in the future do not give it out. If he doesn't trust you, he shouldn't be with you. Period. He doesn't get an all-access view of your life.

[k0rl0]

Yeah well thats why im here, Im new at relationships and trying to get a better understanding from the general public thanks guys!!!!

[Simon Phoenix]

Yeah well thats why im here, Im new at relationships and trying to get a better understanding from the general public thanks guys!!!!

 

I don't care how new at relationships you are, why the fu*k would you give your boyfriend your passwords? Boundaries -- establish them.

[k0rl0]

I remember your situation from your other post. You should give him your new number, so if he pants he can contact you. And I'd say him checking your FB is a sign of him seeing whether you are talking to those other guys, like you did before. All this supports the idea he indeed gave you a break, not a break up, to see how you'd behave. Use this chance wisely and show him that you changed [if you feel like you did].

 

Well yea I contacted him w my new phone number and to save it and he agreed to. So yeah im using this time to reevaluate myself, for myself cuz I wanna be true once again just how I used to be. even i. Its for someone in the future.