Do guys like short girls?

[MalachiX]

From what I've seen, most couples tend to be within 2-3 inches of each other. Anything more is usually tough to deal with in terms of kissing and eye contact etc. For all the talk about how dreamy tall men are or how manly men feel when they are with very short women, people end up with someone of height similar to theirs.

 

Well, yes and no.

 

I believe a man being 3-5 inches taller than a woman is optimal because it allows for that amazing thing where, when we hug, the top of her head snugly fits in between the bottom of my chin and the top of my collar bone. I know that doesn't sound very romantic but it's incredibly intimate because it gives the feeling that we "fit" together and I like that

 

That said, most studies show that, for whatever reason, women in general tend to value height and the more the merrier. That's why the classic definition of the perfect guy is "tall, dark, and handsome." There was actually an interesting article on Huffington Post a year or so ago on how negatively many women respond to shorter men and it incorporated a lot of responses to a survey that were surprisingly harsh. Now, this certainly isn't true for all women but it seems that, for some reason which is perhaps programmed by society, women feel they inclined to gravitate to towards taller and taller men. I realize that this evidence is rather antectdotal, but it's always interesting to me when I see tall friends who are aren't particularly attractive (bad hairdcuts, poor shape, lousy sense of dress) who still seem to have better luck finding women than short friends I know who are incredibly good lucking and in amazing shape (not to mention very cool guys).

 

I certainly don't want my statement above to sound cynical (I hate how bitter some dudes act on these boards) and I know a lot of exceptions to what I've just stated. It just seems that, on average, many women would rather go for a guy who's six inches taller than they are rather than three. For someone my height, that doesn't leave many options

[bubbaganoosh]

A good friend of mine many years ago was dating a girl that he met at a restaurant. It was one of those joints that you pull your car in and hit the button and a voice comes through the speaker and you give your order.

 

A car pulled in next to him. A Blue VW. He glanced over and saw this really pretty girl and decided "what the heck" and started a conversation with her. He asked if she would have lunch with him in his car. She was not real sure if she should and he promised that he would be a gentleman at all times and even open the car door for her. She agreed and parked her car in the parking lot and when she came around the car on the other side of him, he was getting out of the car to open the door for her as promised and that's when they got a real good look at one another.

 

He is 6 feet 5 inches tall and weighs 260 LBS and not fat! She is 4 foot 10 inches and weighs 90 pounds. At the same time they both said, "How tall are you" and they had a good laugh about it. After lunch he asked her if she would like to go to a movie with him and she agreed.

 

Two and a half years later I was one of his groomsmen in his wedding to this tiny little lady. That was 1975. They have been married for thirty eight years and have two kids.

 

I asked him one night, how in Gods name did they have sex. He could have killed her with his size. he said "Very carefully and it was unbelievable. He was always picking her up and walking around with her and when asked why, he said it was easier to kiss her at eye level then bending down. There was 18 inches difference in height. There you have it.

[MrCastle]

Well, yes and no.

 

I believe a man being 3-5 inches taller than a woman is optimal because it allows for that amazing thing where, when we hug, the top of her head snugly fits in between the bottom of my chin and the top of my collar bone. I know that doesn't sound very romantic but it's incredibly intimate because it gives the feeling that we "fit" together and I like that

 

That said, most studies show that, for whatever reason, women in general tend to value height and the more the merrier. That's why the classic definition of the perfect guy is "tall, dark, and handsome." There was actually an interesting article on Huffington Post a year or so ago on how negatively many women respond to shorter men and it incorporated a lot of responses to a survey that were surprisingly harsh. Now, this certainly isn't true for all women but it seems that, for some reason which is perhaps programmed by society, women feel they inclined to gravitate to towards taller and taller men. I realize that this evidence is rather antectdotal, but it's always interesting to me when I see tall friends who are aren't particularly attractive (bad hairdcuts, poor shape, lousy sense of dress) who still seem to have better luck finding women than short friends I know who are incredibly good lucking and in amazing shape (not to mention very cool guys).

 

I certainly don't want my statement above to sound cynical (I hate how bitter some dudes act on these boards) and I know a lot of exceptions to what I've just stated. It just seems that, on average, many women would rather go for a guy who's six inches taller than they are rather than three. For someone my height, that doesn't leave many options

 

If you choose to believe that it's cool. But it's self limiting.

 

I am below average height and I clean up, but I go by personal experience and belief and not what I read on here or elsewhere.

 

The only thing stopping most people is themselves.

[emva07]

I' ve actually noticed that short girls are pretty popular with guys. At times I've even wanted to be short myself because they are just so damn cute and bubbly, like puppies.

 

But like most guys on here have said, a cute girl is a cute girl. And i'm a 5'5 cute girl, lol.

[gaius]

I don't think he was trying to be offensive.. Especially since he thinks I'm really cute.. Heck, I think I'm cute! but idk.. Is short height a turn off? I thought guys like petite girls. No?

I dated a girl even shorter than you one time and I'm about your boyfriend's height. I'll admit, it can take a little time to get used to. You almost feel a little dirty at first because you're basically going out with a girl who's the height of a really young kid, and it's been drilled into your head from a young age how wrong being attracted to kids is. I half expected her to get offered children's admission and kiddie meals on our first few dates even though she had nice big breasts. Plus it's a little weird having to bend down so much.

 

After you get over that there is something extra sexy about it though because it is very feminine. I've kinda gravitated toward shorter women ever since. Dunno if every guy can get over it though.

[MalachiX]

If you choose to believe that it's cool. But it's self limiting.

 

I am below average height and I clean up, but I go by personal experience and belief and not what I read on here or elsewhere.

 

The only thing stopping most people is themselves.

 

Once again yes and no.

 

Certainly a positive outlook is invaluable and our perception often does dictate our reality. Being cynical or having low self-esteem certainly turns into a self-fullfilling prophecy and it's healthy to force yourself to always look at the bright side.

 

THAT SAID, certain trends become stereotypes because they are real. Statistically men with lower incomes have far greater trouble in online dating. Statistically, shorter men have more difficulty finding a partner. Statistically taller women or overweight women have more trouble finding a partner. One shouldn't let these things dictate your life or make one feel all is hopeless but I think it's also silly to pretend they don't exist.

 

You wouldn't tell someone with dyslexia that he's going to be every bit as effective in a speed reading contest as someone without the disease. It doesn't mean he'll never learn to read fast. It just means that he's at a bit of a disadvantage.

[Kitchen]

I love short girls. I'm 5"9 and I prefer a girl who's 4"10 - 5"2

[MrCastle]

Once again yes and no.

 

Certainly a positive outlook is invaluable and our perception often does dictate our reality. Being cynical or having low self-esteem certainly turns into a self-fullfilling prophecy and it's healthy to force yourself to always look at the bright side.

 

THAT SAID, certain trends become stereotypes because they are real. Statistically men with lower incomes have far greater trouble in online dating. Statistically, shorter men have more difficulty finding a partner. Statistically taller women or overweight women have more trouble finding a partner. One shouldn't let these things dictate your life or make one feel all is hopeless but I think it's also silly to pretend they don't exist.

 

You wouldn't tell someone with dyslexia that he's going to be every bit as effective in a speed reading contest as someone without the disease. It doesn't mean he'll never learn to read fast. It just means that he's at a bit of a disadvantage.

 

Again I'm not sure what to say here. I don't see how telling myself I'll have a harder time finding partners statistically because I'm short will do anything but create insecurity and/or make me sabotage my relationships subconsciously.

 

I have never in my life had a negative experience due to being short so it wasn't until joining this site that I even knew height was a big deal. I date women shorter, my height, and taller, I am more successful in dating than any of my friends, most of whom are slightly taller to much taller. So there is no reason for me to believe anything otherwise.

 

Do short men have a tougher time finding dates? It's possible, but even if that were so, I don't know where having knowledge of that would help shorter men in any way as it pertains to dating.

 

You can't do anything to change your height. So accept it and date who you want to date.

[Robert]

On topic posts please, no insulting posts about either gender and no personal insults, if you cannot post to the thread starters concerns then take the infractions with a smile,

 

Thanks

[mesmerized]

From what I've seen, most couples tend to be within 2-3 inches of each other. Anything more is usually tough to deal with in terms of kissing and eye contact etc. For all the talk about how dreamy tall men are or how manly men feel when they are with very short women, people end up with someone of height similar to theirs.

 

Within 2-3 inches? Even average height man is 5-6 inches taller than average height woman

 

OP, some guys do some don't. I think being something like 5'6" or 5'7" for women is kind of perfect if they are going after taller man. Tall enough to pull off a model look, short enough to still be shorter than most of the men they go out with.

[Phoe]

I'm like 99% sure men would PREFER short girls rather than tall girls, so you have nothing to worry about OP.

 

I'm 5'8 and have been told by a handful of men that I'm too tall. Which is insanity. Because while I'm on the taller side for a girl, I'm not the jolly green giant.

 

 

But it's just their preference!

[BabyBash]

I want a taller wife cause I want my sons to be NFL linebackers

 

 

For attraction purposes, it's not too much of a difference. The hottest girls I see are around 5-3 to 5'6 but I've seen some beauties shorter and taller

[BabyBash]

I'm like 99% sure men would PREFER short girls rather than tall girls, so you have nothing to worry about OP.

 

I'm 5'8 and have been told by a handful of men that I'm too tall. Which is insanity. Because while I'm on the taller side for a girl, I'm not the jolly green giant.

 

 

But it's just their preference!

 

 

5'8 is perfect. I'm 5'10 so you would be still be shorter than me plus give me the possibility of having sons who are 6'0+

[Phoe]

5'8 is perfect. I'm 5'10 so you would be still be shorter than me plus give me the possibility of having sons who are 6'0+

 

 

 

Funny enough, all the tallest men I know have absolutely tiny mothers!

[lakerman34]

5'0" - 5'8" is extremely dateable to me.

[mtber75]

I don't mind short girls! Yes they seem to be curvier but I also have this theory that they are more street smart and scrappier than there taller gender because they constantly have to prove themselves more due to their shorter stock.