when to say something or to let something go?

[devilish innocent]

You know how they say it's important to say something as soon as it starts to bother you, rather than to let it fester until it gets worse? My problem is that when I try to do that, I find myself nitpicking at really little things that shouldn't be an issue. So then I try to be more optimistic and let things go, and something I thought wasn't a big deal starts to really bother me a lot later. I have a hard time telling the difference between when I'm just making things difficult or when something is a real issue for me. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to tell the difference?

[Zapbasket]

That's a tough one. If you figure it out, let me know!

 

I'm going to go out on a limb of extrapolation here, since I can't say I have any expertise in this area whatsoever. I've just barely begun this process, but...I think when you grow clearer within yourself about what is important to you, and you respect yourself enough to stand true to those things, it is much easier not to sweat the small stuff. You know what constitutes "small stuff" because you are so secure in recognizing and setting appropriate boundaries for the big stuff.

 

I see in myself how my constant doubting of my own convictions leads me to nit-pick about less important things, because my self-doubt renders me unable to protect and respect myself by setting good boundaries.

 

Don't know if that helps. I'll be curious to read what others think.