The dad Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Hi all, first time poster. First a little of my backstory. In April I found out that my wife had cheated with one of my best friends who had stood up for me in our wedding 18 years ago. It only happened that once and I was devastated. I left for a week and when we talked the next time she informed me that she wanted a divorce. I was not ready for one and did the exact opposite of what I should've done and tried my hardest to talk her out of it. She was insistent that it wasn't about him, it was about her not being happy. I'll admit we were neither one happy, but I never knew she wanted out. She isn't one to talk about her feelings so she always just let me believe she loved me. Telling me she did every day. Three days later she says she hasn't for years and was just trying to convince herself she did. Again she insists it's not about him. Within two weeks she was meeting up with him in motels. He has a history of using women and even bragged all the time about his "hotel sluts" to both of us. I have since learned he also has a history of getting drunk and hitting them. Well cut to 5 months later and I'm accepting that it's over and looking forward to the future. I really think I'll be better off. Our 14 year old daughter is living with me in the house she grew up in and her mother is living 40 miles away with him. Well that is up until 2days ago. That is when karma stepped in. I found out that they were both arrested for domestic battery. She said she hit him and drew blood but that he didn't lay a hand on her. In all of our 27 years together I never saw a violent side to her, although I have no doubt that if I or anyone ever hit her she would hit back. She said the police wouldn't believe her that he didn't hit her. She got bailed out but he is still in jail. ( I do hope someone has made him their girlfriend. Is that wrong of me? lol) She was defending him to me. I have made it clear to her that if he is violent I don't want our daughter around him. The funny thing is 2 months after the judge ordered her to pay child support I haven't seen a dime, and now she's arrested for this. All of this and our final hearing is scheduled for this week. It seems my strategy of just hanging back and letting her hang herself is working out. So hang in there everyone who is just waiting on karma, it's working its way around to you.
2005tahoe Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 I am a believer in karma. Of all people, my sister got involved with my STBXW and actually told my wife that she could do better than me and that mt wife didnt deserve to be married to me. After finding out that my own sister would say things like that I asked to never see her again or ask me for help of any kind, to basically disappear to me. Just last week she was fired from her job, she is a detention officer at a local police department and they were having some training session. Well, she fell back and bumped her head a little bit and pulled the whole "im sore, my arm hurts, my neck hurts" crap and decided to sue her own employer, that is actually the county that we live in and that they know every judge in the state. I knew that she would get fired months ago when i found out that she sued her own employer. I know how you feel, I got some satisfaction from it and waiting on karma to hit my wife. She basically walked away from our marriage and to this day I have not gotten an answer from her. But what goes around comes around. stay strong!! Here is my story if interested, would love some insight. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/410969-feeling-lost
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