gersanos Posted November 28, 2004 Share Posted November 28, 2004 Background: We broke up a little over 2 months ago. Our relationship got really tense & stressful when school started (we go to same grad school). We tried to make it work, but it didn't get any better. I initiated a break/space, but she ended it 2 days later. We break up on a bad note. NC ever since we broke up except one phone call which was pretty much another fight (2 weeks after we broke up). We've seen each other quite a few times at school, and it's always the same thing: She's always looking/staring over at me. One time it was a pretty sexual glance with squinted eyes and a crafty smile. Last time I saw her I was walking out of school, she was signing a form on a table, and as soon as she heard my voice she pulled a 180 and looked at me. I just kept walking. We don't talk, but she's always looking at me if I am nearby, sometimes looking at me, turning away, looking back at me, etc. Now, usually whenever I have broken up with a girl, or vice versa, you just go seperate ways. There is indifference usually. But I'm not really getting that in this case. I did and still do want to speak with her and slowly get back together, but I want to protect myself here and if that's not what this is all about then I don't want to risk anything. To me, these are not clear cut signals or anything, but, she is a shy girl in nature. I initially thought that she was doing this to seek attention, but then, I've never in my life had a girl break things off with me and pull something like this afterwards. And if this is attention or something like that, it's getting a little annoying. I am not one to feel uncomfortable, but this is kind of making me feel that way. Next time I see her and she's looking over, should I just walk up to her and ask her why she's looking over, or ask her to stop? Or should I just keep ignoring her or what? Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted November 28, 2004 Share Posted November 28, 2004 Don't say anything to her. Better yet ignore her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gersanos Posted November 28, 2004 Author Share Posted November 28, 2004 Ignoring her is what I have been doing. I figured if she really wanted me back she would have called or something. It has just gotten pretty annoying. Going to school together in the past with girls I dated & then a break up goes down we just go seperate ways & never look over at each other or anything like that. It is the end & we move on. But this case is annoying. It's hard enough just going to same school & being reminded of past when it ended on a bad note & was a serious relationship, and she is not helping by constantly looking over all the time. Is this purely attention or some kind of game? I would have thought she was more mature than that. There was a time when I wanted to walk up to her and ask if she has a staring problem or something. I just figured that by me ignoring her she'd figure it out already and just let me be. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 28, 2004 Share Posted November 28, 2004 Originally posted by gersanos Ignoring her is what I have been doing. I figured if she really wanted me back she would have called or something. I'm pretty sure she would have. Indifference is your best bet here. If she is serious, and sees that she may very well be losing you and doesn't want to, she'll cut the crap and call you and tell you what she really wants. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gersanos Posted November 28, 2004 Author Share Posted November 28, 2004 Thanks for replies. Indifference is what I have been faking whenever I have seen her. I have not shown any sadness around her nor happiness. Just a cold shoulder you could say, as if I don't know her at all & don't care to know her. Link to post Share on other sites
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