KatZee Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Maybe he's answering the thread title question. Meetup is a lot like The Lottery Not at all. In The Lottery people live in a town where once a year or something like that all names go into a lottery, the person who's name is drawn gets stoned to death. Oh sorry, SPOILER ALERT! But seriously, not like meetup at all.
KatZee Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 They all seem dorky. You won't find many hotties thats for sure. You've clearly never gone to one? My girlfriend's group is full of very cute / pretty / some beautiful women.
ray.alb Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I would say it really depends on your character, your nature. But if you're open to that - and I assume that, otherwise you wouldn't have told us about your plan - it is definitely a good possibility to get to know new people.
BluEyeL Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 (edited) I'm all for meetups, not only due to my immediate succes in securing a relationship (albeit short), but because I don't think OLD is the solution. Instead, expanding the social circle and getting to know people naturally, sounds better to me. I think they are a bit uncomfortable at first, you go alone etc., but everything worth having is outside our comfort zone, so you have to be willing to do different things if you really want to improve your social life. Edited October 1, 2013 by BluEyeL 1
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 I'm all for meetups, not only due to my immediate succes in securing a relationship (albeit short), but because I don't think OLD is the solution. Instead, expanding the social circle and getting to know people naturally, sounds better to me. I think they are a bit uncomfortable at first, you go alone etc., but everything worth having is outside our comfort zone, so you have to be willing to do different things if you really want to improve your social life. Yep, OLD feels way too forced and artificial for me. I don't have much of a social circle left so I am looking to make new friends and I guess it can lead to dating in a round about way. 1
Emilia Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I like meetups. I prefer those where people gather genuinely because they enjoy particular activities and it isn't some poor excuse for a single's club. I've made good friends, learned new skills, dated. It gives you the benefits a wider social circle generally does. 3
BluEyeL Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Yep, OLD feels way too forced and artificial for me. I don't have much of a social circle left so I am looking to make new friends and I guess it can lead to dating in a round about way. I'm in the same exact place. I expect it would take some time to find someone to date, but I think it's better that way rather than go to endless dates off of OLD. That thing is draining. And making more friends, doing things you enjoy is always great!! 1
Emilia Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I think it's smart to use information and technology available at your fingertips. Nowdays it's easy to organise people with similar interests into groups so why not do it? 2
clia Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I love Meetups! I don't belong to any "singles" Meetup groups. I like the more age based groups because you tend to get people at similar points in their life -- I belong to a few of 30s/40s groups (a brunch club, a professionals club, and a women's group). In those groups, I've met a lot of single people, though, because by that age a lot of folks start to lose their core group of friends to marriage and kids, so they are looking to meet some new people to hang out with. It's nice to be able to go to a restaurant, bar, wine tasting, festival, or whatever essentially by yourself, yet still have a group of people to be with and talk to. Basically everyone shows up alone, unless there is the random couple or couple of friends. As someone else mentioned, you also start to see some of the same people at events, so that's nice. I've met new friends through Meetups and also met my boyfriend at a Meetup event. I've actually never had a bad Meetup experience. The trick is to find a few groups that you really like. Not all groups are the same, and not all events will be the same either. It is largely dependent on who shows up on that particular night/day. One event can be lame, and another event can be fantastic. Give a few a chance. 2
Copelandsanity Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I did Meetup actively for a stretch of 4 months or so. This is the type of drama that I witnessed and experienced: 1) Organizer feuding with organizer 2) Organizer forms own group, stealing regulars from other group 3) Organizer has falling out with multiple regulars for the most petty reasons, members gets kicked out or leav of own accord I won't overanalyze it too much and attribute to poor selection of meetup group, bad timing or bad luck. I'm currently on a break from all the drama and will likely resume again at some point, but definitely with different groups. Personally, I think I'll avoid the more general social groups and stick to specific interest ones.
Emilia Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I did Meetup actively for a stretch of 4 months or so. This is the type of drama that I witnessed and experienced: 1) Organizer feuding with organizer 2) Organizer forms own group, stealing regulars from other group 3) Organizer has falling out with multiple regulars for the most petty reasons, members gets kicked out or leav of own accord You usually witness this when you are involved with a group on a deeper level, as an average joe you'll have no idea what goes on in the background unless it's a tiny group. 2
GravityMan Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Meetups are pretty good, but like most excursions outside your comfort zone, ultimately YMMV. I think they are FAR better than OLD, and specific-interest meetups are generally better than general "social" meetups...although those can be fun too if the activities are more diverse than just "happy hour". I've met a few weirdos and noticed a few guys who were acting inappropriately towards the women attendees, but most people were normal and friendly. It's been about six months since I last went to a meetup. Also, meetups tend to be popular among people who are new to town, for obvious reasons.
Lansing Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I haven't done it myself but a friend has gone to the restaurant ones and met some "foodie" friends from it (and even dated a guy briefly). I tend to meet a lot of people through volunteering. Good way to give back plus opportunity to meet like minded people. The only problem is I get older I feel that a lot of the other volunteers are getting younger!
TintedChrome Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 There's very good Meetup.com groups and ones that suck. I like the ones I'm in. Mostly I gravitate to outdoor activity clubs. Also look for activity clubs that aren't part of the Meetup.com umbrella. My experience has been that I've gotten more dates and girlfriends from my regular activity or special interest clubs than I have from any event or organization specifically designed for singles.
Babolat Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 Yes, they are a good way to meet people and depending on the event or the function can be a lot of fun. There are boating meetups, photography meetups, dining Meetups, movie Meetups, Game Night Meetups...even Singles meetups. Although, at least in my area whether it's a "singles" meetup or otherwise, it mostly consists of 99% singles in these groups no matter what group you join. LOL That being said, I have to say the functions tend to keep your mind off of trying to conjur up small talk and the ability to immerse yourself interactively with people depending on the activity. I like to kayak, and it's great to join an outdoors Meetup for that. You're all kayaking together, admiring the wildlife, etc...sometimes you get to chatting with a member of the opposite sex AT the same time...but it doesn't feel as awkward because at the same time you're enjoying the activity, perhaps even flirt some. I've known relationships and marriages to have developed from Meetup as a happenstance. Of course, you'll always get those annoying guys that get up in your personal space trying to "get to know you" if you get my meaning, but we've already pointed those dudes out and of course the occasional "man crazy" woman. lol What he said. I have not met a woman I would like to date thru a MeetUp group, though I have made some friends and have had the opportunity to try some new and cool things.
Babolat Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 I haven't done it myself but a friend has gone to the restaurant ones and met some "foodie" friends from it (and even dated a guy briefly). I tend to meet a lot of people through volunteering. Good way to give back plus opportunity to meet like minded people. The only problem is I get older I feel that a lot of the other volunteers are getting younger! +1 to volunteering, I do the same and really enjoy it.
ThatMan Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 You won't regret volunteer work. I've always mixed it up until I find an amazing group with a great cause. I'm always looking to broaden my horizons. Do you guys know how to go about finding decent meetup groups? I've been to several but most of them aren't publicly advertised.
Shepp Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 Turns out that the hot guys are in the mountain biking group. You know it haha Me & my best mate organised a mountain biking meet up - mainly cause we wanted more lads to help us build some jumps and lines out in the woods near where I live. It was a proper laugh, I learnt some stuff & I still bike with a few of the lads now. I thought about joining a marathon running meetup when I was doing the marathon but........im a pretty anti-social runner so I didn't but in theory it would of been a good idea, but I don't like to talk and run, I just like to put my headphones in and block the world out when I run - my gf gets huffy cause I make us jog separately
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