I fooled around with a married man at work, now what do I do

[Mr Spock]

Originally posted by cheatersrsad

Stormywind wants people to stop chastizing and start empathizing. Not gonna happen on my end. What makes people defend cheaters? Not sure I will ever get it. And why doesn't cheating make you evil? A cheater knowingly is intimate with someone who is "taken." Stop trying to put the blame on the MM or the W...YES the MM is guilty, but that doesn't make you any less! And who cares what the W has done to her H. If it were that horrific he would leave her; no excuses. Cheaters are people too...but barely. Feelings, emtions...yada yada yada. What do you think the wife, kids, and families are going through when affairs are discovered or Dad isn't always around? Do you think they signed up for total devastation? If a cheater learned from their actions and resolved to never be that person again that would be great. But when cheaters post in here and whine about their feelings...ick. Worry about the innocents involved-not yourself. You weren't walking around naked in a park, tripped and fell on the MM-you caused it to happen in your life.

 

Maybe you shouldn't have picked such a loser.......and you know what? If an OW isn't attached to anyone and she's f*cking your husband she's not cheating.

 

You've got quite a bit of "yada yada" in your post.

[Owl]

Originally posted by Mr Spock

 

 

Maybe you shouldn't have picked such a loser.......and you know what? If an OW isn't attached to anyone and she's f*cking your husband she's not cheating.

 

You've got quite a bit of "yada yada" in your post.

 

 

Hey Spock...you're right...they're not cheating. But they ARE enabling someone to cheat. They ARE still involved in something that is illegal, immoral, and hurtful to everyone involved or peripherally impacted. It is still WRONG!!!

 

I'm NOT here to judge either. I do try to post an honest opinion, and while people may (and I'm sure you do) take my posts as soley destructive, my intent is to help others to get out of the lousy situation that they're in. There may indeed be situations where an affair benefits all the parties involved...when dealing with about six billion people on the planet, its bound to happend somewhere. But that kind of case is no where NEAR the normal. These things usually end up leaving all the parties involved hurt. So, you do see people here that vent that same hurt, and at times when maybe they shouldn't. But that does NOT make what happened right. Or legal. Or less painful for all the other people involved.

 

So, have a nice day!!

 

P.S. Oh, and please take note...not one part of my post (other than your quote) required editing to remove profanity. Not too tough actually.

[blind_otter]

BIG SIGH....

 

I don't see so much chastising, as people saying - don't get involved with someone who hasn't got the balls to end their primary relationship before starting another one. And that's not saying "WRONG WRONG WRONG" - that's saying, you need to find someone who is able to be dedicated to being with you and you alone. Period.

 

It's a matter of respect, human decency, boundaries. We are all weak, sometimes, but it's kinda pointless to ask advice from a public message board and then demand that that advice only be of a particular kind. There are many trained and licensed therapists who would say, "getting involved with someone who is already in a committed relationship is a bad idea." Support comes in many forms.

[savethedrama4allama]

Having "relations" with a coworker is scary enough. Especially a married one! Are you out of your mind? Do you realize what would happen if word got out in the office that you are messing with another married colleague?

 

Stop before you do more damage.