how do you tell a woman that she's getting old and she ought to compromise

[StanMusial]

Someone should take the same subject, and write one for men, "Marry Her," making the case for why these men should marry the women they overlook all the time, in favour of the ones they hold out for.

 

I think men and women are different. I don't know many guys who "held out" for the perfect girl. If they wanted to get married, they did so with the one that would have them. Most of these guys didn't have many options. The ones who do, don't necessarily want to get married anyway.

 

On the flip-side, the guys that did have plenty of options, what are those other girls to do when he finally picks one to marry? Wait for the divorce? Murder the bride? LOL

[Mascara]

There's a saying I can't remember exactly how it goes, but it's something like - a woman marries when she finds the right man, while a man marries when it's the right time. In other words, as soon as a man decides he wants to marry, the next girlfriend is the one who gets the ring. It's not always necessarily the one who was his great love.

[StanMusial]

Originally Posted by Anela

 

 

Absolutely.

 

 

 

 

That's pretty short-sighted. How many life long heterosexual bachelors do you know?

 

I know several.

 

Apparently all those guys with many "options" ended up getting married after all.

I'm not saying they didn't eventually. My point was they chose ONE, out of many, so what did the rest of the girls do, if he was the one they wanted?

 

People who have their head screwed on right don't select a life partner based on comparing options. It's not buying a car, guys. It's also not about Disney fairytale princess stories, OR dreams of Playmates who will never grow old or be bitchy.

Well, it's finding someone you can get along with ultimately, right? Maybe that person rocks your world, maybe that person does not.

 

What it is really about is finding someone who you connect with on a deep level and with whom you really want to spend decades, and weather the ups and downs of REAL LIFE. Which can be pretty harrowing at times.

I think OP was referring to OLD, maybe I misunderstood. You're never going to connect with someone on ANY level if they don't want to meet you.

 

So if you don't find a person like that (who would be Mr or Ms right for you) you don't start looking at people you think of as "lesser." That is no way to launch a successful life partnership for women or men.

I agree. Different, not lesser.

[Revolver]

I think men and women are different. I don't know many guys who "held out" for the perfect girl. If they wanted to get married, they did so with the one that would have them. Most of these guys didn't have many options. The ones who do, don't necessarily want to get married anyway.

 

On the flip-side, the guys that did have plenty of options, what are those other girls to do when he finally picks one to marry? Wait for the divorce? Murder the bride? LOL

 

This is all true. I wouldn't say men settle more then women, they just settle earlier in life

[FitChick]

Someone had better tell Carmen Electra, 41, that she is past it. And tell the men drooling over her.

[FitChick]

Quick, somebody tell this woman that her time is up and she should start saving money for her lonely old age.

[StanMusial]

Someone had better tell Carmen Electra, 41, that she is past it. And tell the men drooling over her.

 

She better look good, her livelihood depends on it.

 

If you saw her on the street, you might think she's a mildly attractive mom.

 

Carmen Electra is hardly recognisable as she steps out make-up free | Mail Online

[StanMusial]

Her face looks beautiful there considering there's no makeup

 

 

Her outfit is just terrible there is all

 

It's not fair to compare 41 y/o Jane Doe to 41 y/o Hollywood sex symbol.

[StanMusial]

You can go on bodybuilding.com and find tons of older women who look great. 35 years old Jane Doe and looks 50 times better than Carmen Electra - http://imagecdn.bodybuilding.com/img/user_images/growable/2012/12/22/33796492/progresspic/VTSbqZamDBywPwNPXMEzqlaJpeYOrdMEMiHe.jpg

 

 

My point here is that I think most people are just lazy and don't want to put in the hard work to really take care of their body, their skin and health to look great. Instead, they would just rather blame it on aging

 

 

You can look good for a long time if you take care of yourself

 

The vast majority of people in this world have things to do in their spare time other than spending it in the gym. If that's your thing, good for you.

 

Personally I think it's weird to post photos like that all over the internet.

[StanMusial]

Most people spend at least 10-20 hours a week doing things like watching TV, listening to music, playing videogames, watching movies, etc...

 

It's really not worth it for you spend 3-4 hours of that time to keep yourself looking youthful and in shape? All you need is about 3-4 hours a week of intense and vigorous exercise

 

 

 

 

Really? I think she looks absolutely amazing

 

Not just on an attraction level (which is obvious) but it's inspirational. It's awesome to see what the human body can look like at an older age. She is in insane shape - http://imagecdn.bodybuilding.com/img/user_images/growable/2012/09/16/33796492/gallerypic/QLefKnniHrTFRzFDfPlLYtKOmOgKzawNensD-610xh.jpg

 

She looks good, no doubt, I just think it's weird to post those photos on the internet.

 

And the Giants suck.

[FitChick]

This woman lost weight and got into shape without going to a gym.

 

Scroll down the page and watch the two videos of the Lazy Workout and see how you can incorporate exercise into your life all day long, even while reading or watching TV. No excuses!

[crederer]

You can go on bodybuilding.com and find tons of older women who look great. 35 years old Jane Doe and looks 50 times better than Carmen Electra - http://imagecdn.bodybuilding.com/img/user_images/growable/2012/12/22/33796492/progresspic/VTSbqZamDBywPwNPXMEzqlaJpeYOrdMEMiHe.jpg

 

 

My point here is that I think most people are just lazy and don't want to put in the hard work to really take care of their body, their skin and health to look great. Instead, they would just rather blame it on aging

 

 

You can look good for a long time if you take care of yourself

 

The pic you posted there is quite clearly photo shopped......seriously man are you judging women based on unrealistic photo shopped pics? I could photo shop a 12" dong on my pics but I choose not to because it's fake.

[Mascara]

That's only her body though. There's a saying that after a certain age, a woman has to choose between her body and her face.

 

Also, fake boobs don't count

[Mascara]

She looks pretty, but sunglasses hide a lot. If she looks good without them, yep she's doing well. It's definitely a worry for women as they get older though. You can't exercise a chicken neck. Hands too, they give away your age.

[Mascara]

There's a thing called runners face, have you heard of it?

[irc333]

Actually, men aren't much for holding out for THE PERFECT woman, but women tend to have these set of unrealistic expectations that can be quite absurd sometimes.

 

Men are pretty rational when it comes to who they settle down with for the long haul.

 

 

Someone should take the same subject, and write one for men, "Marry Her," making the case for why these men should marry the women they overlook all the time, in favour of the ones they hold out for.

[candie13]

well, we are all human. I wouldn't say "men" are different from "women", I'd just say that some people are a lot more intune with that they really want or expect from their life partner. Other times, it's just timing that makes that some people end up single while others married.

 

The older I got, the more aware I am that I want things in a certain way and the more i became of my potential partner's character, flaws. The issue, getting older, is that it takes a whole lot longer - if that ever happens - to have one in the "sweep me off my feet" mood.

 

Personally, I know that getting rational about marriage and my partner will not make me happy. I want the spark, I want to feel love and I want to be convinced my partner loves me and wants to marry me with all their heart.

 

Why else would I want to get married? I don't "need" to be married. I can get by without cleaning and washing after a man I feel is not "the one". We can still have a relationship and have fun, while each one sleeps at his / her own place, most of the time.

 

What am I risking? Not having children with a man I don't really love and who doesn't really love me? Ending up alone? People can be in relationships without being married, so "alone" is not really such a huge threat.

[mishy]

i am finding that men who use online dating have really outrageous requirements and checklists and this thread demonstrates it perfectly

 

You sound very judgemental and ignorant and it wouldnt matter if you were 25 , it is still not attractive

[HokeyReligions]

Speaking as an older woman; I would thump the OP on the head "nope - not ripe yet" or "rotten fruit - too mushy"

 

There is a LOT to be said for experience.

[runningfar]

Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly.

 

Why would you want to date somebody who had to be argued into considering you?

 

I wouldn't.

[nescafe1982]

Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly.

 

 

o_O

 

hahahahaha!

 

 

Sorry. Haven't read the rest of the thread yet. I'll go back to the beginning now.

[aussietigerwolf]

Lol I actually had a guy tell me that I should be grateful that he decided to go out on a date with me because no other guy would have me... Guess what? I'm not dating him...

[Shaun-Dro]

Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly.

 

Why are you trying to date women your age? Go for younger already. Less headaches on a whole.

[FitChick]

Why are you trying to date women your age? Go for younger already. Less headaches on a whole.

Really? Not if your other thread about your girlfriend (probably on drugs) is any indication.

[Skyraider829]

I haven't had the opportunity but I'm very, very sure that is the absolute truth.