how do you tell a woman that she's getting old and she ought to compromise

[Trimmer]

I think one could make an argument that men and women might "peak" at different times in life but I would not think of that in terms of an expiration date...

 

1. Trying to argue with a women in order to convince them to date you is not going to end up with you having a good time.

 

2. If part of that argument is based on you pointing out that she is not only passed her prime, from your point of view, but has actually "expired..." Well... your really not going to be having a good time....

...and the other part of that argument is, "since you've 'expired', I'm a lousy person, so I'm the obvious choice for those of lowered standards... come meet me down at my level!"

 

Aside from the insult to the woman, you think it's a compelling strategy to market yourself as a "lowered expectation"? Bwahahaha!

[mesmerized]

LOL no offence but even if the women who are close to their "expiration date" aren't giving you a chance, maybe YOU ought to compromise? And no, you won't get any date by telling a woman that.

[TheBladeRunner]

I am 46, divorced, have a younger child that I parent 50% of the time........guess I should settle too. Good luck with that approach OP, it'll go over like a fart in church after eating fast food:lmao:

[bentleychic]

Too old for what?

As a woman of that age, I will say that I'm too old to ride certain rides at the amusement park, too old to go to elementary school, too old to go in bouncy houses (though this was can be gotten around if I REALLY want to )...ummm...if I can think of any more, I'll let you know.

[Phantom888]

Best sex I ever had was with women 35+. Worst I ever had was with women under 25. I have concluded a long time ago that women just get sexier as they age, and they peak at about mid-40s, and then they just keep their sexiness permanently.

[Anela]

I don't recall having, "Use before: April 14th, 2011" stamped anywhere on my body.

 

As a woman of that age, I will say that I'm too old to ride certain rides at the amusement park, too old to go to elementary school, too old to go in bouncy houses (though this was can be gotten around if I REALLY want to )...ummm...if I can think of any more, I'll let you know.

 

One is never too old for bouncy castles. :bunny:

[candie13]

Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly.

 

I got it. Your goal is to get women so mad that they'll absolutely have to f*ck your brains out, just to let that anger of being "expired" out of their system !

 

I bet that argument got you 100% blocked now reaction. If the percentage was under 100%, those two ladies remaining were either unable to read or not fluent in English !

[bentleychic]

I don't recall having, "Use before: April 14th, 2011" stamped anywhere on my body.

 

 

 

One is never too old for bouncy castles. :bunny:

LOL Yes, this may have to do more with bust size than age. I don't like black eyes!!!

[candie13]

Why not tell her she's fat and unattractive while your at it?

 

you forgot "stupid" - as in the terrible trio - fat, ugly and stupid!

 

I thought passing my 30s, not married and no children was a challenge, cannot wait to be 35 to see what new insults are out there, ready for me and my single status !!!

[CarrieT]

So....

 

Has Bob even come back to this thread at all? :D:D

[HokeyReligions]

Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly.

 

No no! Say it exactly as you stated here. These women will LOVE knowing the bullett they dodged.

[bentleychic]

Thought of something else women in their mid-30's can't due...order off of the kid's menu at restaurants!

[Carenth]

So....

 

Has Bob even come back to this thread at all? :D:D

 

Obviously not because his new strategy is pure brilliance and paying off....

[Ninjainpajamas]

Good question Bob (I like the name Bob, it sounds smart)...here's what I do to convince them.

 

I incorporate a series of measurements so that comparatively they realize how they size up to a woman who is 10 to 15 years younger;

 

- Boob measurement

 

This is the most obvious sign, I get a measuring type around their waist and note that their breasts are in fact very close to their belly button.

 

I also perform a mammogram using two encyclopedias as well as check for suspicious lumps with a 20 minute fondling session since I'm there.

 

- Vagina quality control

 

I mark the grey pubic hairs with a permanent marker then write the number above their hairline and since this number usually exceeds their age the results speak for themselves...and then use a ruler to observe vagina lip droop from between the legs...this verifies that their vaginas are wrinkling like prunes and sagging considerably comparatively and should really be glad any man would even think of getting close to that with the exception of a trained professional such as myself.

 

- Wrinkly observation

 

I use a magnifying glass while dripping water across their face to see where the water flows like a river...like the San Andreas fault line here in California...it's only getting bigger and worse.

 

I also sell Avon product on the side, and usually make a killing off foundation after this session.

 

- Cottage cheese test

I inspect the specimen careful while slapping her firmly with a fly-swatter...I count the ripples as they reverberate through her thigh using a stop-watch....this process continues in and around the buttock region, I also compare her cheese to that of the surface of the moon...this considerably lowers her self-esteem and confidence and at this point she is about prepped for the manipulation process.

Conclusion:

 

I sit her down to a cup of coffee (because that's what old people drink) and speak to her calmly and softly while holding a stack of paperwork of raw data then I proceed to remind her that her eggs are drying up and her market value is plummeting using Excel.

 

I give her three options:

 

1) Have sexual relations with me

 

2) Be my sugar momma

 

3) Die a horrible and painful lonely death

 

Not to brag....but they usually go for option one just for some validation in feeling desired and wanted again.

 

You're welcome.

Edited October 3, 2013 by Ninjainpajamas

[Leigh 87]

I think he means that women who are aging and their attractiveness is diminishing, that they should not expect hot young guys who have much hotter younger women to pick from, to line up to date them.

 

I think it is obvious that a women who is not young should not have to settle for less than a guy who adores and loves her?

 

I think the OP was inferring that some women expect too much and should not have a sky high list of criteria?

[Sanman]

Good question Bob (I like the name Bob, it sounds smart)...here's what I do to convince them.

 

I incorporate a series of measurements so that comparatively they realize how they size up to a woman who is 10 to 15 years younger;

 

- Boob measurement

 

This is the most obvious sign, I get a measuring type around their waist and note that their breasts are in fact very close to their belly button.

 

I also perform a mammogram using two encyclopedias as well as check for suspicious lumps with a 20 minute fondling session since I'm there.

 

- Vagina quality control

 

I mark the grey pubic hairs with a permanent marker then write the number above their hairline and since this number usually exceeds their age the results speak for themselves...and then use a ruler to observe vagina lip droop from between the legs...this verifies that their vaginas are wrinkling like prunes and sagging considerably comparatively and should really be glad any man would even think of getting close to that with the exception of a trained professional such as myself.

 

- Wrinkly observation

 

I use a magnifying glass while dripping water across their face to see where the water flows like a river...like the San Andreas fault line here in California...it's only getting bigger and worse.

 

I also sell Avon product on the side, and usually make a killing off foundation after this session.

 

- Cottage cheese test

I inspect the specimen careful while slapping her firmly with a fly-swatter...I count the ripples as they reverberate through her thigh using a stop-watch....this process continues in and around the buttock region, I also compare her cheese to that of the surface of the moon...this considerably lowers her self-esteem and confidence and at this point she is about prepped for the manipulation process.

Conclusion:

 

I sit her down to a cup of coffee (because that's what old people drink) and speak to her calmly and softly while holding a stack of paperwork of raw data then I proceed to remind her that her eggs are drying up and her market value is plummeting using Excel.

 

I give her three options:

 

1) Have sexual relations with me

 

2) Be my sugar momma

 

3) Die a horrible and painful lonely death

 

Not to brag....but they usually go for option one just for some validation in feeling desired and wanted again.

 

You're welcome.

 

 

Quoted for epicness!!!!

[EasyHeart]

One is never too old for bouncy castles. :bunny:

This is now my official Philosophy of Life.

[Leigh 87]

Quoted for epicness!!!!

 

 

 

 

Thanks Ninja, I got dumped just now and that made me smile:lmao:

 

 

But yes, you are totally right about those " older" women:rolleyes: Totally:lmao:

[NoMoreJerks]

I think the OP was inferring that some women expect too much and should not have a sky high list of criteria?

They should have the criteria that feels right for them. Just because someone is getting old doesn't mean their criteria should necessarily change. Ultimately, if they're just looking for someone -- anyone -- to be with and will settle for the first guy who gives them a bit of attention even if they are not attracted to him or like his personality, they don't have much standards at all. What OP is advocating is that all women who are getting older, should be doing this. Because he can only get women who have no standards at all. How about finding a woman who actually chooses you for who you are? And not because she has to settle ? A lot of women end up settling anyway, with guys who are like OP -- because they are bombarded by media, etc., that they should settle before their biological clock runs out and they reach their "expiry" date. Honestly, that is the least of my worries at this point (though I was like this myself). I want kids, but if I can't find a guy that I really like and get along with, and who likes me just as much , then it's fine, I can always adopt, it's probably even better and nicer to do that. Too many idiots procreating in this world and then abandoning those poor babies. Anyway, imagine also what a woman would feel like if she had to settle for a guy. A lot of bitterness in the relationship/ marriage, most likely. My cousin was like this, and she ended up cheating on her husband and then divorcing him and going for another man.

[NoMoreJerks]

Thanks Ninja, I got dumped just now and that made me smile:lmao:

 

 

But yes, you are totally right about those " older" women:rolleyes: Totally:lmao:

Aww, sorry to hear that Leigh.

 

But yes, the boob measurement thing especially. Saggy boobs, anyone? (I totally have a little bit of "saggy" boobs btw and have always had -- Or shall I say, NATURAL boobs, because not all boobs are perky naturally nor do they all resemble porn star (fake) boobs. ). But I totally should settle for the next guy who comes my way, cos they can only get saggier from here on, right? lol.

Edited October 4, 2013 by NoMoreJerks

[Nomad]

Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly.

You seem to be a fairly handsome guy (assuming that's your real picture), so perhaps you're being rejected on the basis of something other than looks?

 

Or, as at least one other poster has pointed out, perhaps it's just that the severely skewed gender ratio on OLD dating sites (far more men than women - does anyone know why that is the case, BTW?) gives women other options, and they're just too swamped with messages from other guys.

 

Attacking a woman's self-esteem is probably not a good way to get her to go out with you (though, in a perverted way, it may be effective in keeping them once you have them: if their self-esteem is degraded, they may feel that if they leave you, no other guy would want them).

[SilentVoice]

Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly.

 

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.....ha

[irc333]

A woman who might tend to be flexible in the height (or other) department would NEVER decide to be so because of the suggestion of an online stranger. I swear.

 

Same goes for the OP - NEVER would any woman say to herself, "ya know? This guy's right! I'm nearing my expiration date! I am going to DATE HIM!!!"

 

Never.

 

Perhaps you can get a bit of an education from the TODAY show.

 

Laura Gottlieb who is an author of, "Marry Him: The Case for

Settling for Mr. Good Enough'

 

It mainly focuses on older never married, single women that are usually in their mid-30's and upward and their obsession to find that ever impossible IDEAL man for them and their issue for focusing on what's NOT important in a mate as to what IS actually important.

 

One of the "What people are saying" - "I wish I could round up every single woman I know and assign this book for discussion. Gottlieb helps women see how our cultural or private fantasies build up so many expectations that they destroy the possibility of real love and, eventually, marriage.

 

Marry Him is a big fat lesson in how not to get in your own way. Any woman who wants to find true love and hasn’t been able to should read this book."

 

—Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., relationship expert at Perfectmatch.com

[RedRobin]

I dunno. Maybe all those women are the smart ones. I guess it depends on whether they want to be married or want to be happy. *shrug*

 

They probably figured out their lives are pretty good... and all they really need a man for is love and companionship. If a guy can't provide that, then yea, being single is definitely preferable.

 

Anyway, his response has beat a couple I've gotten in the past. I had one guy email and ask..

 

"do you have big boobs?"

 

Priceless...

[Anela]

Perhaps you can get a bit of an education from the TODAY show.

 

Laura Gottlieb who is an author of, "Marry Him: The Case for

Settling for Mr. Good Enough'

 

It mainly focuses on older never married, single women that are usually in their mid-30's and upward and their obsession to find that ever impossible IDEAL man for them and their issue for focusing on what's NOT important in a mate as to what IS actually important.

 

One of the "What people are saying" - "I wish I could round up every single woman I know and assign this book for discussion. Gottlieb helps women see how our cultural or private fantasies build up so many expectations that they destroy the possibility of real love and, eventually, marriage.

 

Marry Him is a big fat lesson in how not to get in your own way. Any woman who wants to find true love and hasn’t been able to should read this book."

 

—Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., relationship expert at Perfectmatch.com

 

Someone should take the same subject, and write one for men, "Marry Her," making the case for why these men should marry the women they overlook all the time, in favour of the ones they hold out for.