irc333 Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 ...I wanted to add, in my area, I sometimes would mention, "Considering where you live...you really can't afford to be overly picky, so you might want to be a little flexible in the height requirement".
PlumPrincess Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 People, before you give this guy advice you might want to check out his posting history... I checked out his dating profile.
crederer Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 You come off as arrogant. Women want to laugh and have a good time and not be made out to feel inferior. Based on a couple of your previous posts, it seems you're on a high horse from an intellectual perspective.
giblesp Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 That's an absolutely disrespectful thing to say to a woman. Do you feel you're going to get their attention with that killer chat up line? Get off the computer and get out into life. 1
phineas Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 OP sounds like the 40 yr old women online who only put down their age & younger as what they are looking for. You know, because guys tell them they look younger. 1
SoleMate Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 I can't get in to see his OKCupid profile without joining the site....which I am not about to do.....so can someone tell me, is that a real pic? Because I find him very cute. He's definitely not getting rejected on looks. ("Hotel night auditor" doesn't sound like a glam career that will have women swooning though.) Back to OP: This is a classic "bitter thread". Basically it's been done to death here on LS. The answer for you is to be realistic about your own appeal, and also flexible about the search parameters for your next love interest, while maintaining a positive attitude of self-esteem and respect for possible partners (and all people, really). Dating is a marketplace. If the sellers aren't accepting your handful of copper coins in exchange for their eggplants and goat cheese, maybe your copper coins don't have quite the value you thought. It might be helpful to reflect on exactly why a woman your age is "too old" for you. What would it mean about you, if your partner were 36 just like you? Would that mean you are a person with less value? 1
Tayla Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Ahhh the old maxwell Smart attitude... yeah...strike first before the horse gets out of the gate...then trodden them and say...Yup! See ..I knew she wouldn't last.... Its re-affirming a set result and telling folks...see how my stats are true? to an extent none of us here get out alive...we do have expiration dates....Yet so long as a breath and blood flow....we are not off the shelf of living life to its fullest....and loving those that matter. I seriously had a good laugh over this illogical approach stated by the OP. Heck I'd no doubt agree with a fell'r that came off that way...Yup I am TOO old for such childish antics..Go back to the drawing board...you are not ready for a respecting relation....
Citizen Erased Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 I think you should lead with that, chicks dig being told they're dried up at the ancient age of 36. They're definitely bound to snap you up. 3
FitChick Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 For all the whiners who complain you have to be good looking and chicks will flock to you, the OP is an example of that not being true. You might initially attract someone but you have to deliver on personality and humor. It's the whole package. 6
xxoo Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 I'm curious about how the "indirect" phrasing of this idea would sound.... 2
theonlyjuan Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Why not tell her she's fat and unattractive while your at it? 5
TB Rhine Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Good looks will get you dates, at least in the real world. They may even get you laid. (OLD may be a bit different, since the women he's talking to will probably have a lot of men vying for their attention, any number of whom may be perfectly decent-looking guys, regardless of their other life circumstances. Stiffer competition, in other words, which enables people to be pickier). Good looks will get you dates, but any combination of charm, mystery, success, or other markers of social status will seal the deal. If the OP is looking to get into a relationship (which I'm guessing he is, otherwise he'd be trolling for hot young things rather than 40 yr old spinsters), his lack of success or social status is not helping the situation, and a lack of charm or mystery will ensure that he has nothing going on (no "drama," in other words) to make up for his lack of status.
HeartDesires Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Why not tell her she's fat and unattractive while your at it? :lmao: ..... 2
Skyraider829 Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 That's got to be one of the most shallow things I've ever read. Pathetic, childish and blatantly rude. What woman would date you after stating such a thing? Not very many - if any at all. I guess a calendar is more important to you than a person. Go marry a clock. 4
BradJacobs Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly. Too old for what?
BradJacobs Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 (edited) What is a 35 year old woman too old for? I'm trying to figure that out before I give my advice. Edited September 29, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
NoMoreJerks Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly. lol, no. I don't recommend it. That's ridiculous, retarded, sexist, and desperate. No, really. Are you really serious about telling them that? My date of expiration is when I die. If you don't like older women that's your problem. But don't put an expiration date on others. 1
Mascara Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 What the OP is forgetting is that women have far more options in OLD than their male counterparts. A 35 year old man is roughly equivalent, in terms of attention and options, to a 55 year old woman who's let herself go a bit. In other words OP, you're the symbolic equivalent of a large menopausal woman. Who needs to compromise now? 2
PlumPrincess Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 What the OP is forgetting is that women have far more options in OLD than their male counterparts.I'm not sure what's worse - these options or no option? 5
kaylan Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 ...I wanted to add, in my area, I sometimes would mention, "Considering where you live...you really can't afford to be overly picky, so you might want to be a little flexible in the height requirement". Stating requirements in a profile is a big turn off. So much so that even if I fit into what the girl wants, I either dont message her, or message her with the intent to casually date only. It just seems so pretentious. And even more so if she doesnt have much room to be so picky for whatever reason or another (location, age, her own attractiveness, etc) 1
CptSaveAho Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Actually... this is a great idea... I will bet you 100 dollars you will get laid at least twice doing this... tell it to her directly Look at the reactions given by the women in this thread... lol She will get mad because she knows she has no value, then try to validate herself to you if you play it cool afterwards
Els Posted September 30, 2013 Posted September 30, 2013 Oh, excellent idea! You should definitely send them that message. Nothing worse than wasting someone's time while putting on a false front to hide the ugliness within. The quicker you show them your true colours, the better.
Anela Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 OP sounds like the 40 yr old women online who only put down their age & younger as what they are looking for. You know, because guys tell them they look younger. All sorts of men do that. Or only add an age range that includes younger women. He isn't unique, unfortunately. 1
Phantom888 Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 why would you want to insult the ladies? Women want to be loved and appreciated. No one should lower his/her standards. No one should settle. Just because you are getting older doesn't mean you deserve less. I am madly in love with a woman who is 39, same age as me. She is such a catch in my book. Beautiful, sexy, smart, funny.... I never consider her age anywhere near "expiration", and she certainly would not "settle". 6
BluEyeL Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly. Sounds very d-baggy. But good luck with that attitude!
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