bobsmith76 Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly.
Phoe Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise. I can't picture any woman reacting to that positively. 25
hotpotato Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Sounds like a good way to not get a date... 7
ScienceGal Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 So, you want a woman to consider you her last resort? That's your angle to get a date? Do you have low self esteem? 8
soccerrprp Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly. Haha! bobsmith76, what a terrible idea and absolutely not true! I suspect they'll respond with some very harsh language in return. Don't go there and simply accept that they are not interested. I can't believe you think that women, who are only a year older than yourself, are TOO old. 36? Too old? 1
Art_Critic Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Why would you even think that ? 36 isn't passed an expiration date and neither is 50. It think if you really feel that way then you are going to fail miserably at laying that line on any woman, if you are only joking and the right humorous woman comes along then it might work providing your weren't serious.... Any woman worth her salt would rather be alone the rest of her life than to settle for someone who isn't her fit or her ideal partner.. same thing for a man in her shoes. 9
Amethystic Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 In a word - no. If someone isn't attracted to you, why the hell do you think arguing with them is going to change their mind? This is a classic example of how socially retarded some guys who rely on OLD can be. I don't know if it's cause or effect. Either way, I'd like to see you try to slip a line like that in the real world. You: Hi, could I take you to dinner sometime? Her: Nah, I'll pass. You: Well as you know, in our culture, a woman's perceived value decreases as she ages. Bearing that in mind, could I take you to dinner sometime? Her: *Throws drink in your face* Learn some social skills, OP. 9
ScienceGal Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Just when I think I'm ready for online dating... sigh. 6
anna121 Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly. Please, please, PLEASE do this and tell us what happens. 14
Carenth Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Sure do it then come back and tell us about the results. I'm sure this will go really well. Seriously though this is a terrible idea. You are basically using the argument I know you aren't attracted to me or even like me but I'm your only choice because you will be rubbish in few years. You can't force someone to be attracted or to like you. Also why would you want to be with someone who was only with you because they were afraid of expiring and must death grip any available man. Do you not have any self respect? If that is all you can offer then bloody hell maybe I understand why you are getting rejected a lot. 2
emva07 Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 are you such a terrible date that you have to tell women they are compromising by being with you? Why not just be a great guy and make women want to be with you naturally? 2
Eggplant Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Women want to be desired and wanted. They don't want a man like you who views them as low-value. If you don't want them, then you do them no good. 5
gimmeasign Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 If you mean that you don't know if you should tell them they have let themselves go, or have a few more wrinkles than the younger years...well...that's still hurtful and I would not go there. High expectations are best in relationships and life. There is someone for everyone, whether they've let themselves go or not.
hppr Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly. No, no no. Get out, meet people in real life. Online dating is a waste of time. 1
Imajerk17 Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 (edited) Yeah do it. Totally. And report back to us how well it works for ya. /sarcasmFont People, before you give this guy advice you might want to check out his posting history... Edited September 28, 2013 by Imajerk17 1
ChessPieceFace Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 You can't seriously tell me that 35yo women reject you for being 36. When I see profiles on dating sites, almost all the girls are going for men around their age or usually older.
quartz88 Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 And this is what the dating pool in D.C./Baltimore as to offer... There are so many flaws with your strategy that I don't even know where to begin. 1
TB Rhine Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 It's naught but common sense that men's market value increases with age (in correlation to their financial stability), while women's does the opposite (in correlation to their physical attractiveness and reproductive potential). If women close to your own age are rejecting you, it's because they're looking for someone [they perceive to be] of equal social value to themselves... problem is, the majority of those guys - successful professional men in their thirties - are looking to date a good ten years younger. They'll either get real in the next few years and start compromising, or eventually start accepting dinner invites from married men in their fifties.
lovelorcet Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 I think one could make an argument that men and women might "peak" at different times in life but I would not think of that in terms of an expiration date... 1. Trying to argue with a women in order to convince them to date you is not going to end up with you having a good time. 2. If part of that argument is based on you pointing out that she is not only passed her prime, from your point of view, but has actually "expired..." Well... your really not going to be having a good time....
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 That's simply not true. There are many women who pick nothing over undesirable options. Why would you want a woman to settle for you anyway? 1
irc333 Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 I use the argument about geographic desirability. Where I live, which is more of a rural series of towns, where I would occasionally see "new comers" to the area that moved here because they wanted to be closer to their family. Usually, they wind up realizing what a remote area they live in and resort to ONLINE dating. This area is mostly old people or middle-aged (or younger) people already married and living together. Some are on their 2nd kid by their mid 20's. They see this occuring around them and thus the move to the dating sites. Of course, this is a way to see the remaining, how you say, "The last of the Mohicans" discovering each other, and usually those "Mohicans' aren't entirley what they are looking for in height, status, or appearance. And I use the "Well, in this neck of the woods, I'm probably considered one of the more desirable prospects of the area". LOL But, before it even gets to that, they usually ignore my emails and I keep seeing their faces perpetually on the site as they become a permanent fixture on OK Cupid or POF, living out their spinster lifestyle. Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly.
irc333 Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Funnily enough, I was able to talk an older woman into giving me her phone number because I convinced her that she looked so young for her age that she should consider dating younger men only because men her age are gross to look at and lack energy to even leave their couches. LOL She thought I made a valid point and gave me her #. Being 36 years I get rejected by a lot of women on Okcupid who are 35 years old. (I consider 36 too old). If I really like them I prefer to write to them twice since that has worked a few times in the past. I'm wondering if I should ever use as an argument for why they should date me: look, you're approaching your date of expiration so maybe you ought to compromise or is that simply stating the obvious. Of course if I did say that I would put it more indirectly. 3
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