MikeJones88 Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I am not looking for friends. I have the best friends in the world already. Am I a dick for not wanting to be friends with girls who friend zone? I don't think so. 1
Zelias Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 you're not a dick at all man, been there, done that. When a woman friend zone's you, leave, never be in contact, forget about her and move on. The blame goes towards you for not manning up and the other for the woman not giving you a decent chance. The way I view this, and this is my 2 cents on it, men just shouldn't be friends with females. I just don't believe in it. Drama, Gossip, and Fantasy. In the real world, I want the least amount of it. 1
fallenheart Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 No reason to be friends with a girl if you are sexually attracted to her and she's not into you. That's basically like hitting yourself in the balls over and over and over every time you see her. I did this for most of my life until I wised up recently. "Oh but if she just sees what a great, nice guy I am, eventually she'll change her mind and stop dating thos tools and come to me!!!" No. No she won't. Men make better friends anyway. You don't have to filter yourself around them. I'm not saying don't be friends with ANY females...but certainly don't waste time with girls that you want to get with that have refused your advances. 1
Ed the 3rd Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 No my friend that's simply the way it works. Its like if I asked a girl out and she said anything other then yes or "let me think about it" I just won't bother. Don't get friendzoned mate. Ever. You can't appear needy and just stick around as her special tampon friend for eternity and never get any. You are a top man with an interesting life, many goals and actual friends to hang with. What reason do you have to stick around? Maybe SHE'LL regret her choice after some time but you shouldn't count on that. You've got other girls to chase.
truth_seeker Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I agree with everyone. Why bother being friends with a woman? For what? It only makes sense if she's a co-worker or if she's the gf or wife of a guy friend. Other than that, makes no sense really. She will only use you when she is bored or lonely for attention. Once she's not bored or lonely, she will forget about you in a second. Also, keep in mind, if a girl likes you, and you don't like her, she will not be your friend.
normal person Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Oftentimes if you get a "let's just be friends," it doesn't necessarily mean she actually wants to be friends. It's just a much nicer way of saying "I don't have any interest in you romantically, but as a consolation I won't be entirely cruel in expressing that to you," so take it with a grain of salt. If you don't want to be friends, you might be better off -- the odds are good that she'd rather not be either. A lot of people might prefer the honesty, but you can't blame a girl for sugarcoating something like this. The intention is good.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Why bother being friends with a woman? To do so makes sense if you like Pinterest. (but what are the chances of that??? )
Zoyalover Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Not at all Mike, I'm a lady and think you are totally fine especially if you are over 29. If you are over 29 then more than likely you may be looking for something greater than just a friendship. That's just my opinion.
coolheadal Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 Your intent was to date this girl but her intent has placed you in the dreaded Friend Zone Girls like this want you to still take them out and spend money on them but as friends only.They call you when their so called boy friends can't take them out. So who do they call? Their guy friend zone, who's always there to take them out or bring them to event. They tell you all about their boy friend which your are not or won't be! If you can't have this girl she makes you here friend only. Really bad thing if they don't tell you they already have a boy friend then you find out by accident. Just move on and ignore all contact with this girl. Because if you don't help her she'll just move on to another guy who's in her friend zone as well. There is always someone she can get a free ride from.
TintedChrome Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 May I make an interjection? I think it can be beneficial to have female friends. Isn't female pre-approval one of the attraction switches in PUA theory? Like if you go out, better to have some women with you too instead of all guys? Does having some women in your social circle make you a little more attractive and interesting and give you some experience at being with women and communicating with them? This is assuming you don't have feelings of attraction for her, and she actually is a good friend, and not "using" you for free dinners or an emotional outlet or such. Having said that, if you are hot for a woman and she friendzones you, naturally you can't just shut off your feelings and accept her lousy terms. Then, ending contact/communication may be the necessary choice.
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