What should I do?

[Intel]

On Thanksgiving (2 days ago), my girlfriend told me that she didn't think we should be together anymore. She says that she loves me and cares about me, but she isn't "in love" with me anymore. This same thing actually happened about a year ago. She likes to go out and go dancing with her friends (who also have boyfriends), but I don't really like to. I've also never been a big fan of her spending alot of time with her friends. It's mainly because I'm insecure. For over 3 years since we've been going out, the only arguements, fights, etc. we've ever had were because of my attitude towards her going out and doing things with her friends.

 

I always knew that this bothered her but I never did anything about it because I never thought it would be the end of our relationship. Now it has finally come to head. I know that I can change the way I am about it, but am I too late? Does she really not love me anymore? Everything was fine up until 2 days ago...she wanted to see me and said she misses me when she didn't. Should I just give her the space/time she wants and hope that we get back together or should I just give up all hope and feel that after 3 1/2 years...she just realized that she doesn't love me?

[Heartache]

Man, i've been lurking for about a week now... and wondering if I'd post.

 

But your situation is very close to mine.

 

My fiance and I just moved from our city house to a house in the country .. 10 hours away.

 

She just left me, saying she doesn't know if she needs a break, or that we are 'broke'.

 

Which leaves me all alone with no friends in a new city in a big house I bought for us to begin our lives together.

 

She's not talking, instead she is ignoring the situation rather than confronting it. So I sit here with no feelings of closure.

 

I want to reach out make it better, but any contact from me gets her in worse shape.

 

I thought she was the one for sure.

 

So anyway, man I feel for you. I know what you are going through. I can't give you any answers yet, but at least you aren't the only one going thru something like this.

 

Good luck.

 

Heartache