kingofhearts Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Hello, Guys. Been here for the past few reltshps now. Not Good. LOL... Anyways... Long story short, I've never had to do much of the dumping, but enough was enough. This is our third time breaking up and the second time I've had to call the cops on her. She has threatened to destroy my belongings as well as successfully doing so, called me out of my name, put her hands on me, got us both arrested, and finished all this off last time by saying F*ck my mom and disrespected me in front of her.... I have no remorse because I paid bills and did everything for her and her daughter. She lies when she gets desperate and threatens to harm me. I've been NC with her for a week now after police helped me to put her out my house. I've since delivered her possessions w/o seeing her as well. She continues to call, send threatening text messages, stalking my social networks, apologizing, etc. She is now living with her mother.... My question is, should I continue NC? Or should I inform her mom of her actions so that she comforts her and help her deal with this? She never clues her mom in on this kind of stuff and even lies to her. She needs help.... too much has been forgiven on my end....
veggirl Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 dude, you spent your whole relationship trying to help her. did it work? no. so why would it work now? let her sort her own s.hit out, do not involve yourself unless you are looking to get sucked in AGAIN for break up #4.
Author kingofhearts Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 dude, you spent your whole relationship trying to help her. did it work? no. so why would it work now? let her sort her own s.hit out, do not involve yourself unless you are looking to get sucked in AGAIN for break up #4. I hear you. We are beyond done at this point. I've accepted that her problems are beyond me. My question is... Should I notify her mom of her endless stalking to give her some good words? She has a daughter to take care of, but I don't want to eventually have to go to police and attempt to put her in jail over this. Someone needs to get her to stop.
melell Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 My thoughts are ignore everything she does. She doesn't have the right to do this, if she gets arrested over it so be it. She will eventually give up with you giving no response. You contact her family, and it will fuel the fire trust me. My ex contacted my family to try and get money that I had already given him (rental bond) and it made me really angry, I was fuming for days- but never acted on it. From what you have said, she will act on any emotion you ignite in her. If my ex contacted my family and said that I was being crazy (I wasn't crazy, but even if I was) I would be beyond upset about it. At the same time it is likely she will lie her way out of anything you say about her, so that you sound like the crazy one, and her family will believe HER. You need to go silent on her, and anyone to do with her. Eventually this will pass. Give it time
Author kingofhearts Posted September 28, 2013 Author Posted September 28, 2013 My thoughts are ignore everything she does. She doesn't have the right to do this, if she gets arrested over it so be it. She will eventually give up with you giving no response. You contact her family, and it will fuel the fire trust me. My ex contacted my family to try and get money that I had already given him (rental bond) and it made me really angry, I was fuming for days- but never acted on it. From what you have said, she will act on any emotion you ignite in her. If my ex contacted my family and said that I was being crazy (I wasn't crazy, but even if I was) I would be beyond upset about it. At the same time it is likely she will lie her way out of anything you say about her, so that you sound like the crazy one, and her family will believe HER. You need to go silent on her, and anyone to do with her. Eventually this will pass. Give it time Thx. I was thinking the same as well... That it might just re-ignite her emotions. I really care for her and hope that she learns and grows from this, but another part of me just want the nightmare to stop. I feel sad and bad for her. I was just getting dumped 2-3years ago and whining about it on LS.....
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