Do I leave the past in the past or ask more about it?

[k0radm01]

Hello there, My boyfriend and I are moving in together this weekend after 15months together. We are in our 30's and both of us want the same things in life(love, marriage, a family) so I know we are ready for the nextstep. The problem is that our communication is not where it needs to be and wehave a past relationship issue that we can’t seem to resolve.

 

He and I were friends for several years before we got together. Iwas in another relationship at the time, but he hooked up with one of mybest friends a couple times. I knew that it was just a drunkhook up and neither of them were actually interested in each other. Ittook a while (and a lot of convincing from him) for me to decide that I couldget over it. I was very hesitant because I know myself, and I frankly didn'twant to see one of my best friends and have the thought "you slept with myboyfriend" go through my head and it does. But, I decided that I hadto give this relationship a shot because everyone has a past and all thatmatters is that he wants a future with me.

 

Then in the first 6 months of our relationship I slowly foundout that he was rather promiscuous before we were together...itreally shocked me because I didn't think he was like that. The worst partis that several of these women are in our group of friends. One of his "bestfriends" is a girl he had a fling with and I actually didn’t care for her atall BEFORE we got together. Now I have to be around her and her boyfriend more thanI would like.

 

I am not friends with my ex’s because I feel awkward and it just doesn’twork for me. I wouldn’t have dated him had I known about any of these women andI think he knew that…we’ve talked many times about it and hewill only tell me the main people I had suspicions about. He isreluctant to tell me about the others because he says, “Baby, it's all in thepast and I made a lot of mistakes. I’m with you, very happy and I don’t want toruin your relationships with these women because it doesn't matter.” I hear whathe is saying but it does matter to me because I feel like I don’t have thewhole story. I don’t want to be around girls that have slept with my boyfriendthat I don’t know about. Should I press him for this information or leave it inthe past? Thanks for any advice.

Edited September 27, 2013 by k0radm01