Tinyrain Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 My ex and I broke up a year ago, after dating for a year. I'm not really over it, I think I still love and miss him a lot. I still don't really understand what happened and why he stopped loving me. But I'm a whole lot better that I was a few a months ago. We haven't been in contact at all since we broke up, which has really helped. I've started dating again but I haven't really gotten excited about anyone yet. There is this one guy I've seen a few times and there is no reason why I shouldn't like him. He's perfectly nice, sweet and we have a good time. I just don't feel anything for him and I don't know why. Maybe its because I still have the ex on my mind (which I try not to). But I just know he doesn't get me excited the way I was excited when I met my ex for the first time. Is this normal? Do I just need to suck it up and resign myself to the fact that no one will be as great as the ex? I feel like giving up dating, its so discouraging sometimes.
Philosoraptor Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 You said it already, you're not fully over the past. Until you are you're going to feel this way. Don't look or get into anything serious until you've been able to leave the past in the past. You'll be making comparisons and it will be unfair to both you and the new guy. 2
JDPT Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 You must sort out your past and leave it where it belongs. You are hindering the chances of expanding your horizons, you clearly have been for one full year. Work on getting over your ex, this will not happen with only time, time is certainly a crucial factor but there is also an assortment of tools you must use. It's in your best interest to perhaps seek professional assistance. He/She will assist you in finding the root if your issue and will find ways to advance your recovery. 1
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